First Date Magic For Women
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Relationship Advice for Women
Relationship Advice for Women
Labels: dating advice for women, dating tips, dating tips for women
posted by The Relationship Doctor at
2:38 PM
7 Comments:
What should one do when the guy in question does not correspond with you while you are dying for a conversation in the initial stage?
If you like him, wait for him to speak. It shows that you are respectful. In time, he'll open up to you. Remember, most men just aren't as good at conversation as women.
If you really really must have conversation, then ask him a couple of questions and be SURE not to take the conversation over. So many women do that. After their date starts to answer their question they say something like, "You know that reminds me of...." and the man never gets a word in for the next 20 minutes.
I am interested in a Guy, and we had a little bit of initial correspondence, he answers my professional queries (we have different professions, but he is very knowlegeable, well connected n helpful) but I feel he either ignores or dosen't reply to anything personal even if asked in a friendly manner.
What can I do to help improve communication and get him to open up a bit?
Thanks
Ruby
It probably depends on what kind of contact you have with him. If it's over the phone only, then its about your tone. Slow and soft will definietly give him the impression that you are interested, not the content of what you are talking about.
If it's in person, then it's all about how you look at him. Smile and make eye contact with him every so often. Don't forget to SMILE. Believe me, he'll know of your interest!
Hi Doc,
Here is my story: We met at a dating website initially and he didnt want to disclose much about himself, later when I did a lil back ground on Him I found out that i am acquainted with his sibling (He did not know that), whom I had lost contact after high school. I didnt do a professional back ground on him.. i just put 2 and 2 together from the talk and looked at alumini group...even i did not know that He was my friends bro...
The initial talk with Him was great but there was no follow up from either side, as he had wanted to protect his identity..and didnt tell me who he was..I didn't feel it was right as there should not be a need to hide if things were ok with him, but later, when i found who he was (credibility wise)i was more interested to communicate further.. .but his response was cool sort of.. I have written to him mostly after that.. but he says he preffers to talk..and has asked me to call, but when i call him up sometimes his phone is off or he dosen't answer.. and sometimes would return my call after 5-6 days, and answers my emails with one liners, and some times dosen't reply.
I don't know if he is anything close to being interested or is totally pissed at me for finding out who he was.... his responses are just so neutral and doesnt want to share any personal info. i think He knows I am interested.. but Do you think he is not interested any more or is just busy...His friends say he is serious type and reserved..
should i stop persuing him?? I do like this person though.. pls suggest if there may be any hope, to somehow catch his interest.. and how can i rectify some of my mistakes.. i am 27 and never have felt interest in anyone like this before.. need help!
karen
Karen,
While I do appreciate your question I'm afraid I can't really give you much relationship advice because it's too specific. I'm always worried about telling some exactly what to do when I have not met them and it is regarding their situation that could make a huge difference in their life.
I can give you a bit of general relationship advice regarding your inquiry if that is o.k.
If he is this guarded then usually he will be that guarded in most of his relationships. Is there anything you can do? That depends on what he will allow you to do. If you mean how can you make him come closer, then the rule of thumb is to create more distance. NEVER chase someone who is creating distance, they'll only create more.
Doc,
This is very good advice. I know, everyone keeps telling me that. But its just so hard to control onself. We are so dashing professionally.. the go getters. But when it comes to relationships, I feel a simple Jane will do better than me.
Thanks for this advice.
Karen.
pS. Have a wonderful Holiday Season!
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