Where to meet men

I've been doing some research. The book after the next one....... is going to be about how to find the man of your dreams. That will create a trilogy of 1) How to find the man of your dreams 2) How to keep your man and 3) If you lost him, how to get him back. Those three should address what a woman should need regardless of what stage of relationships she finds herself.
I can tell you that thus far all I'm really finding are lists of places to meet men. Some neat ideas but there has to be more to it than that. I mean, I know some women you could put in the middle of a bridal shop and they'd still end up meeting a wonderful man, my wife is one of them. It must be a combination of the woman and the location. I've written about becoming the woman men adore, but haven't tackled the location aspect just yet, but I will. Within a few months I'll have the ideal places where anyone can meet men with little effort. There really isn't a meet men with no effort, unless a woman wants to order up a date like they did in Logan's Run.
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It's the little hunches that are most accurate

About a year ago I read a fabulous book called, "Blink." I've observed how often trusting your gut turns out to be true and here was a book that explained why. I went to Grad School and learned all the counseling theory, but I keep coming back to intuition, especially when it comes to women. The trick is always helping them distinguish between intuition and intensity. It is the subtle impressions that a woman gets early on in a relationship, that don't scream at her, that are the most often true. Those feelings that scream are often true...And distorted......and somewhat false.
Here's an example. If a woman goes on a date and the guy only talks about himself and she has this feeling that he might be a little selfish, I'd tell her to pay attention to that feeling. It isn't screaming at her, therefore I trust it. Just like in an argument, if you have to scream, your point isn't that strong. If on the other hand, her date talks about himself the entire date and she has a terrible sinking feeling in her stomach, I'd be inclined to suggest she give him another date. Why? Because her reaction is disproportionate to what he did. Something is going on in her mind that has nothing to do with her date. That kind of reaction is often misleading, even though it is intense.
I know, I know, it's not the kind of dating tips women like to hear, but they work.
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Newest Book, "How to Get Him Back"

I'm in the middle of my newest book, "How to Get Him Back." I think I know what women want to hear which is simply, "what do I need to do to get him back together with me." The biggest problem I am having is trying to find the formula that will work for everyone.
I think I've got it, but until it's actually being read by readers you never truly know. I guess, I'll just have to go by the results I have seen by my clients. I must admit, it is nice to have clients to verify new insights before I write about it. I know that most authors don't have this luxury. I'll give you a small insight from the book, which should be available at the first of 2007.
When trying to get a man back, it is imperative that a woman avoid any argument with him. All that does is reinforce whatever fears he already has about the relationship. Unfortunately many women believe that avoiding arguing is the same as avoiding conflict and it isn't.

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Why wait to have Sex?

I get responses from women all the time who ask me when they should have sex with a man. Mostly they want to know how many dates then need to go on before they can give themselves to a man/guy. Rather than simply giving them a specific time frame, I like to explain why waiting is better than rushing in and what is actually involved in sex. It's more than just a feeling but a deeply bonding experience where a piece of their heart is given to another person. Here's a link I found that explains what happens chemically in the brain during sex.
Sexisforreal

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Power and Surrender

I see this problem often. How women (men too) long for a confident and powerful man who is sensitive to their feelings. Most men are good at doing one or the other and I have heard numerous stories of how frustrating that is to women because during dating most men can do both. Why can't they do both all of the time????

The short answer is because it's really hard to combine both of these traits. What I suggest to women a more accurate understanding of men and what they REALLY want. Having a man who is strong and attentive makes him a father. Fathers maintain this balance with their daughters (at least they are suppose to) because they don't need their daughters for emotional support (again, they are not suppose to). What really is a female turn on is a man/guy of power that will periodically allow a woman/girl to get her way.

I've had women say how much they longed for a guy who would pamper them with money and attention. Then they meet a wonderful man and within 3 or 4 dates they suddenly seem to find him BORING. I have told as many men as will listen that women crave a man's strength. There is no substitute for a man who knows what he wants AND is attentive, AT TIMES. Men that can master this balance of power will find they will never lack for female attention.

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Men Sometimes Forget

I had lunch with a friend the other day. We hadn't seen each other in probably 3 months and before that it certainly a year. He's successful by most standards and very efficient when it comes to running his companies. In short, he knows how to get things done. In addition, he loves his wife and absolutely ADORES his daughter. I can relate.
While we were talking I listened as we discussed how our families were doing and it was refreshing to hear some of his frustrations that he has dealt with and overcome. He related incidents where he simply puts his mind to a task, regardless of feelings, and overcomes his problem (he calls them challenges) and because this method is successful in most areas of his life, he will volunteer this approach to his wife when she is hurting. As I was listening, my mind immediately recalled how I had done the very same thing with my wife.
Then my friend ended his story with this sentence, "You know Bob, after the third time of her (his wife) telling me her point I realized - 'Hey dummy, she just needs you to listen." It was a good reminder for me- and a little embarrassing too. I mean I give advice on relationships for a living. I know this stuff, but in that moment I was reminded that I'm not a woman. It's sometimes easy to want to make a woman feel better immediately rather than allow her to feel better her way (which usually works better).
I left our lunch with a renewed appreciation for my wife who is different and therefore wonderful. I had just forgotten that a little bit.

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Understanding Men

I know it's confusing trying to figure out men. The truth is that we really don't use as much of our brains when it comes to relationships like women do. We get accused of being mean, selfish and rude (well men can actually be all of these), but in reality many times it's simply because men are clueless. This is why there are books out there that say propose helping women with titles like Men Made Easy. When I speak with women they learn pretty early that I'm pro Man (uh, male species). Rather than complaining about men, wouldn't it just be easier to understand what makes men work and use it to your advantage? The women who have taken me up on this are the ones who write me thank you letters and some have even invited me to their weddings.

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My first blog

Where to begin. Over the past 3 years I've sold over 8,000 books online and in paperback. Not too bad for something that was only suppose to be a little add on to my counseling practice. Yet with all the women I speak with, I am still amazed at how often they misunderstand how men think. I guess I shouldn't be so hard on them, it's just that when many of them are told, they seem to have no idea what I am talking about.

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