What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?

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I came across this post, what am I doing wrong, and it sounded similar to so many emails I get every week. Doctor Love Coach didn't want to make any guesses without more information and I can appreciate her response. There could be a dozen different things this woman is "doing wrong" and she probably does need more information before making any suggestions.

I, however, get this type of email every week, so I'll gladly tell you what I think she might be doing that is contributing to her frustration.

Dear Frustrated Single and 35

1) Stop telling these men about your intentions. You're 35 years old and single. Nearly every man on the planet knows that a single 35 year old woman probably wants to get married and most likely have children.

2) You aren't crazy. A lot of men are afraid of making a mistake by "picking" the wrong woman to be their wife. To overcome this fear you need to learn how to captivate a man by demonstrating value. It must appear to him that he has caught you, not that he needs to "settle down" and get married.

3) If you're having sex with these men, stop. If these men aren't motivated enough to pursue marriage when you're having sex with them, then is there anything else you could offer to persuade them into matrimony? Exactly what bigger gift can you give besides your body??? Stop giving them access to your heart, mind and soul until they commit to you for life. It's a fair trade.

Is Marriage for White People Only?

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When I first saw this article it obviously seemed racist but after reading it there appears to be some truth to it. If you want to know why I do this for a living, this article is a good starting place. How can people just give up so quickly and say that this is a trend and it's only going to get worse.

Here's the article.

Now, does this apply to everyone? No it doesn't and it certain isn't limited to one race. Yet because of this pattern, it unfortunately falls on women to do what many of these men will not do, which is grow up.

How to do this you ask? Here's a good starting place.

Living together before Marriage???

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This topic has been debated since the dawn of Women's liberation. What's sad is that usually the argument is only between those who say it is and isn't morally wrong. Nothing wrong with that discussion but there is more to this question than simply each person having their own opinion.

The truth is that women who move in with a man are playing a man's game. It isn't just that it's morally wrong, which, by religious standards it is, but it decreases the likelihood that the ensuing marriage will last.

Here's something to think about if you're considering moving in with your man:

Living together Before Marriage?