Understanding Men

Women Haven't Adapted to Casual Sex

2008-06-30T12:14:00.000-07:00

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I can sometimes do without the almost religious fervor of evolution this and evolution that, but the findings are quite interesting. I wonder if women just weren't designed for one night stands?

See for yourself.

I especially found it interesting that quality seems to be more important than quantity.

Women's Fashion for Men

2008-06-23T12:08:00.000-07:00

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This is just one man’s opinion, but you’ll find his opinion is more universal than not. Oh, and the stuff he doesn’t like, take that with a grain of salt.

Fashion Tips for Women

Marriage Advice for the Ages

2008-05-06T09:12:00.000-07:00

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Some advice is predictable (better communication), some is fun (sex is good for a marriage) and some is just simple. In fact, sometimes the answer to a successful marriage can be found in focusing on what happens day to day between a couple.

It isn’t the big things that matter so much; rather it’s how you treat your spouse daily that makes a husband devoted for life.

Getting Him Back

2008-04-24T12:53:00.000-07:00

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If you have just had a relationship end, then you are most likely feeling overwhelmed (assuming you want him back) and perhaps a bit desperate. Nearly every day my office staff gets several phone calls from women who want to speak with me - RIGHT NOW. They don’t mean to be pushy, they’re just scared, and they feel that if they wait too long then they might lose him forever.

Of course the fastest thing to do would be to hire someone immediately, preferable a professional who has spent years working with individuals and couples. If you need to speak with someone – RIGHT NOW – then here are some resources:

www.askmarsvenus.com (The original Mars – Venus guy)

www.collinspartners.com (Very good reputation)

www.relationshipheadquarters.com (Yours Truly)

But for some the cost of hiring someone they don’t know can be a bit intimidating or perhaps you just want some quick insight. In that case, it might be a better idea to simply read some articles (and they’re free) and see if any of this advice might be helpful to your situation.

Here are some articles:

www.romanceclass.com

www.cupidsreviews.com/Getting-Ex-Back.html

ezinearticles.com/5-Ways-to-Get-Your-Ex-Back

ezinearticles.com/Getting-Back-Together-Advice

If these don’t answer your question it’s probably because these like most articles they are often written in a general and brief manner. As an author I can attest to the fact that it’s hard to describe how to get someone back into your life in one page or less which leads to the next suggestion. Buy a book. It’s less than hiring someone and often they come with a money back guarantee.

Here are some options:

www.magicofmakingup.com

www.howdoIgethimback.com

www.retrievealover.com

www.winbacklove.com

These are some suggestions. It isn’t meant to give you the answer because your situation is unique to you. The idea is to give you some resources so that you can decide which are best for your situation.

The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox

2008-04-14T10:50:00.000-07:00

From: Relationshipheadquarters.com

Yes, I do agree that women are more in control of the process of selecting a mate than most would admit. However, what they fail to understand is that for those women who know how to captivate a man, even in an age when there appears to be less quality choices, all that is required is one man. Just one that can take your breath away.
I've had clients who were widowed and then remarried and not a one of them ever said that they "settled." Why is it that so many single women can't get married the first time when these widowed individuals (some in their 50's) can find love? Perhaps it has more to do with our unconscious actions?

What Husbands Can't Resist

2008-04-11T09:11:00.000-07:00

from: Relationshipheadquarters.com

First, sorry for the long delay in posts. Our website is being completely redesigned and that has entailed more work than I imagined.

Second, our newest book, “What Husband’s Can’t Resist,” also took longer than expected at the editors chopping block but the results were worth it (I believe).

Third, we are expecting triplets (as in 3 boys, wow) so that’s been a bit of a task to prepare everything for them also.

O.K., that’s enough about me, here after it’s all about relationships and men!

What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?

2007-10-18T12:11:00.001-07:00

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I came across this post, what am I doing wrong, and it sounded similar to so many emails I get every week. Doctor Love Coach didn't want to make any guesses without more information and I can appreciate her response. There could be a dozen different things this woman is "doing wrong" and she probably does need more information before making any suggestions.

I, however, get this type of email every week, so I'll gladly tell you what I think she might be doing that is contributing to her frustration.

Dear Frustrated Single and 35

1) Stop telling these men about your intentions. You're 35 years old and single. Nearly every man on the planet knows that a single 35 year old woman probably wants to get married and most likely have children.

2) You aren't crazy. A lot of men are afraid of making a mistake by "picking" the wrong woman to be their wife. To overcome this fear you need to learn how to captivate a man by demonstrating value. It must appear to him that he has caught you, not that he needs to "settle down" and get married.

3) If you're having sex with these men, stop. If these men aren't motivated enough to pursue marriage when you're having sex with them, then is there anything else you could offer to persuade them into matrimony? Exactly what bigger gift can you give besides your body??? Stop giving them access to your heart, mind and soul until they commit to you for life. It's a fair trade.

Is Marriage for White People Only?

2007-10-08T10:05:00.000-07:00

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When I first saw this article it obviously seemed racist but after reading it there appears to be some truth to it. If you want to know why I do this for a living, this article is a good starting place. How can people just give up so quickly and say that this is a trend and it's only going to get worse.

Here's the article.

Now, does this apply to everyone? No it doesn't and it certain isn't limited to one race. Yet because of this pattern, it unfortunately falls on women to do what many of these men will not do, which is grow up.

How to do this you ask? Here's a good starting place.

Living together before Marriage???

2007-10-02T11:07:00.000-07:00

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This topic has been debated since the dawn of Women's liberation. What's sad is that usually the argument is only between those who say it is and isn't morally wrong. Nothing wrong with that discussion but there is more to this question than simply each person having their own opinion.

The truth is that women who move in with a man are playing a man's game. It isn't just that it's morally wrong, which, by religious standards it is, but it decreases the likelihood that the ensuing marriage will last.

Here's something to think about if you're considering moving in with your man:

Living together Before Marriage?

3 Things Men Can't Resist

2007-09-13T10:18:00.001-07:00

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Most women don't realize just how deeply men feel. This research, while not all encompassing, does confirm what some experts have been saying about men.
The truth is that when a man is properly motivated, he will do almost anything for a woman.

Here's the link: What Men Will Do For Romance

3 Signs He's Interested in You

2007-07-02T11:32:00.000-07:00

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Sign #1: He makes Good Eye Contact

Since guys are visual, it goes without saying that they stare at women whom they find attractive. This is significant because, as a general rule of thumb, men tend to avoid prolonged eye contact because of its threatening nature (think Alpha Male stuff).

In addition.....

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The Man of Your Dreams is Here!

2007-05-17T13:40:00.000-07:00

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After months of "getting is just right" I am thrilled to release the third book in a collection for women entitled "How to Find the Man of Your Dreams." My staff has told me that this is one of the most frequent request we receive and until now, we had nothing to offer them.

As with all my other books, this one comes with a FREE 15-minute coaching session and a money back guarantee. Please feel free to ask questions if you like and it is my hope that it proves to be as helpful as the previous two.

The Man of Your Dreams

2007-05-10T11:34:00.000-07:00

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Soon my newest book will be released, "How to Find the Man of Your Dreams." After speaking with hundreds of women who have dared to share what was in their heart, it appears to me that deep in the heart of every woman is the desire to captured by the man of their dreams.
You can read a preview of this book before it is released June 1.

50 Universal Truths About Men

2007-05-02T13:26:00.000-07:00

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Here is a list of characteristics that nearly every man believes, but few ever verbalize.

1. Why should I remind you that “I love you?” I already told you once.

2. I’ll do anything for sex; even commit to you for life.

3. I hate arguing with you. I’d much rather find a compromise.

4. I love long hair. Sorry, but I do.

5. When you speak softly, I can’t help but listen.

6. I need to be told “no” sometimes. Not a lot, but every now and again reminds me that you are expensive.

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Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back (Secret ingredient)

2007-04-23T08:15:00.000-07:00

Relationshipheadquarters.com - Understanding Men...in Relationships.

I must admit that I have been pleasantly surprised at the popularity of "How Do I Get Him Back." I knew there was a need but I didn't know how great it was until now. While many women have taken advantage of my FREE 15-minute coaching session, some have not and have emailed me that after a "few days" the plan isn't working for them.

It appears that some women are hoping to find a magical phrase that they can say to their ex which will cause him to come running back into their arms, instantly. I can tell you the only phrase that will come close to that is, "I will have sex with you whenever you want, without you having to commit to me." That doesn't sound too appealing does it?

If you are one of these women I need to tell you something. I know you don't want to hear this but the truth of the matter is that it's going to take TIME to win your ex back. I cannot tell you how many women give into their fears and impulsively end up doing the very things I warn tell them not to do (ie. sending an email, letter, emotional phone call, etc..).

How much time you ask? Usually between 2 and 6 weeks. Sometimes less and sometimes more because words are not as effective on men as they are on women. Words only work when the right phrase is said at the perfect time. I want make certain that their ex FEELs as well has hears their words. I don't like to leave anything to chance.

For those who aren't sure what they should do, I've created a FREE report to help women identify if they are making any of the mistakes that drive men off. This way you can decide if the man you want back is worth the effort.

Wishing you the Relationship of Your Dreams!

Bob Grant, L.P.C. "The Relationship Doctor"

Why Susan Dates Bad Boys (Jerks)

2007-04-12T12:20:00.000-07:00

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For the past 5 years Susan has been on a dating roller coaster.

Each guy dates has two identical qualities; they were always exciting and eventually treated her like dirt!

Now she isn’t stupid and doesn’t enjoy being mistreated. It’s just that she, like many women loathed being bored by a man.

It seemed to Susan that the only way to tell if a guy would make her happy is if she felt a “connection” with him (and the sooner the better) and with this being her measure of how to pick a man, she found herself dating men who excited her AND made her feel out of control.

In fact, in the beginning, every one of these men seemed so nice and sincere, certain of their love for her.

At first, they couldn’t get enough of her.

Flowers were followed my phone calls which frequently culminated with wild passionate sex.

With each man she felt she had found someone special, after all.....

Full article available at Susan Dates Bad Boys

3 things Men can’t resist

2007-03-23T12:55:00.000-07:00

1) A woman who smiles. (More powerful than you might realize)

A woman who smiles makes it easier for a man to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness. Since many women are fearful of giving men the “wrong impression” they frequently guard their smiles. While that approach is safer, it inadvertently sends the message of being someone who is overly cautious.

In addition, smiling is a sign of acceptance. Men often need.....

When it Comes to Men: Patterns Don't Lie

2007-03-08T13:44:00.000-08:00


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It is amazing how many women know the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result) and yet they continue to date or marry the same type of man and expect a different result. Most therapists who have been practicing for a few years are familiar with this pattern. Usually those individuals who practice relationship insanity only enter therapy because they are in intense pain and they are desperate. Often a woman will enter my office for relief from their heartache rather than insight into her problems. Most of these women (men too) want their circumstances to be different, but they often don't want to change their behavior.

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Why Do Men Cheat - Follow up

2007-02-23T11:15:00.000-08:00

Cindy, I did look at your site cheatingways.com and liked what I saw. In addition, I appreciate the resources in your site, e-books, detective agencies, and articles. It pains me to say that a friend of my wife needs to see your website. It's strange, but I wouldn't have thought of all the things you have until I visited your site.
I'm busy organizing the e-book and when it's done, a copy goes to you!

Visit me at: relationshipheadquarters.com

Understanding Men: Why Do Men Cheat?

2007-02-23T11:13:00.000-08:00

Understanding Men: Why Do Men Cheat?

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Emotionally Distant Men Resource

2007-02-14T10:09:00.000-08:00

I found an article I really like. It's on a site called www.squidoo.com where you can create your own "lens". Basically it's a place where you get to be an authority on the topic of your choice, so I thought why not? I created one (a lens) that needs some work, but it's a start. The title is Dating Tips for Women and while I was there I noticed an article that I liked. It's entitled Emotionally Distant Men and it's nice to see someone not simply repeating the usually advice such as, "Men just need to grow up." It seems obvious to me that she understands men pretty well.

Learn more at: relationshipheadquarters.com

Why Do Men Cheat?

2007-02-13T13:58:00.000-08:00

When I went looking on the web for research I was surprised at how little information there was for women. David Zinczenko says that among other things, men were more curious and there biology influenced them in this direction more. I agree with him that men are not biological predestined to cheat. Thank goodness some men actually get this and it seems that he does.
On the other side there is Curt Smith who says, “When men cheat, it basically means that they are looking for something their girlfriend or wife is not providing. Often times, it comes down to sex.” Well, partially true but there must be more to it than that. “….cheating is disrespectful towards the person you've cheated on, but at the very least, it has two beneficial aspects to it. First, that you'll realize your mistake and appreciate your lover a lot more after the horrible deed.The second is that cheating can help you realize your misery within your current relationship, and will likely give you that necessary shove to move on and stop wasting both your lover's and your own time.”

I don’t think so Curt. I mean I’m sure for some this is true, but that’s not the reason why men cheat. That makes men out to be morons (Make your own jokes). I mean if men are so stupid that they get married when they are almost destined to cheat then why even bother. Most men have every intention of being faithful which is why they are often slow to commit to marriage. No, there’s more to this than that Curt.
Then there’s Lorna who gives the reason being that men cheat because of; sexual variety, curiosity, desire to feel important, opportunity and sexual addiction. She’s right, but those reasons seem to me to be the result and not the cause. What exactly causes a man to desire to feel important or act on an opportunity? I’m thinking about writing a small ebook about this.

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Where to Meet Men

2007-02-07T12:19:00.000-08:00

Here are some links that might prove helpful for anyone who feels they don't know what to do for their man. It's not a complete list, but it might be helpful.

I'm researching my newest book, "The Man of Your Dreams" and this is some of the stuff I'm finding.
Here are some funny sites, they don't mean to be funny but they are to me.
SugarDaddie.com
Millionaire'sclub.com

For those who just want some new ideas, here are sites for those that aren't worth $1,000,000 and growing.

Ivilliage.com/meetmen
Ten Great Ways to Meet Men
How to Meet Men and Women

For other ideas visit my website at: Relationshipheadquarters.com

How To Get Him Back, It's finally Here!

2007-01-25T10:21:00.000-08:00

Well, it's done. The new book, "How Do I Get Him Back," was birthed into this world on Monday, Jan. 22, 2007. Of course most folks will remember that day as being a new episode of "Heros," but I can't complain. I like the show too.
What I want every woman to know is that what I have written does work. It just might not make much sense to women. After all, if a women really were good at understanding men, they wouldn't be women...they'd be men.

Most people get in trouble overusing what they are good at. Women are good at empathy (at least most are) and nuture, the very things that will keep an ex away for good. Anyway you can find out more at howdoIgetHimBack.com.

How Bad Do You Want it?

2007-01-09T15:24:00.000-08:00

So you want a relationship to die for. There isn't anything you wouldn't do to have the guy of your dreams come into your life and pursue you until you gave in to be his girl and later his wife. Are you certain you can do what it takes? I mean if what you need is to be more independent and learn about your own insecurities, would you be willing to do that.

Those women who are willing to take complete responsibility for the outcome of their relationships are the ones who get what they want. Blaming others is the primary difference between those who have their man and those stuck on the outside looking in, desperately.

I've written about this in my book and so have John Gray, James Dobson and Dr. Phil. Hey, I had to compare myself with someone so why not pick the big boys. If your finally ready to have the relationship you've always dreamed of, then take action this year. Learn what works with men and what doesn't. Get a book or hire a coach if need be. You don't have to be perfect, just open to the truth about yourself.
Often, what can change a woman's life is something very simple. They just need someone to help them see it.

May this year be your best!

Bob Grant, L.P.C. "The Relationship Doctor"