Are You a Good Girlfriend?

How Would a Man Rate You as a Girlfriend?

Your general approach on a date is:

	A)	Talk, ask questions, anything to avoid silence.
	B)	After you ask a question, you always ask a follow-up question to his reply.
	C)	Find a common interest and stick with it.
	D)	Observe him to determine if he’s right for you.

Answer: B

Reason:
If you consistently ask follow-up questions, it conveys that you have not only listened to him, but also that you are actually interested in what he has just said, which is a great way to make a good impression.

After your fourth date with a man, it is clear that he wants sex. You:

	A)	Have sex. Why not? It’s been four dates, he’s very attractive, and you feel connected to him.
	B)	Play coy, and eventually give in after lingering at your door for twenty minutes.
	C)	Don’t have sex, but say that you want to soon.
	D)	Say “You can have me once you buy me.”

Answer: B

Reason:
The sooner you have sex with him, the less likely he will be to marry you. If you think this man is someone who could be special, then giving him access to your body means you have very little left to give him. At least that’s how most men see it.

After dating for a few months, an encounter happens that starts a disagreement. You respond by:

	A)	Fighting back. You’re not backing down to him.
	B)	Avoid the fight by any means.
	C)	Once he raises his voice tell him, “This doesn’t feel good,” and then leave the room.
	D)	Allow him to get angry and try to soothe him through compromise.

Answer: C

Reason:
Women who are excellent at captivating men know that it is fruitless to compete with a man once he’s angry. The most Powerful strategy is to leave his presence, once it gets competitive. You can argue with him, but what men hate the most is to be ignored. I promise.

You’re on a first date and find out that you have different religious backgrounds. Your religion is very important to you and you don’t think you could be in a significant romantic relationship with someone who does not share the same values; but on all other accounts, he’s perfect. You:

	A)	Immediately back off on the relationship front and hope that a great friendship can still result.
	B)	Inquire more about his religious beliefs. Perhaps they’re not as steadfast as your own.
	C)	Abandon the date on the spot. You already have a great group of friends. You’re looking for a relationship and this is a deal-breaker for you.
	D)	Subtly change the topic. It’s only a first date. You can deal with this problem later.

Answer: B

What is needed is more information to determine how deep those differences are and only TIME will reveal to you this information. Don’t decide based on one date, unless it’s obvious that your beliefs are incompatible.

After going on a few dates with a man, you find out that he has a child. You know that you want children and fear that he doesn’t want any more. On your next date you:

	A)	Ask him if he wants to have more children.
	B)	Mention that you love kids and can’t wait to have your own children.
	C)	Avoid the topic completely. It’s still too soon.
	D)	Ask your mutual friend if she knows his opinion on having more children.

Answer: A, but with a qualifier.

Reason: First ask his permission to bring up a potentially awkward subject and then share with him what you would like. How you talk (speak gently) about this subject is just as important as what you say.

You are at a holiday party and see an old friend’s college boyfriend. You know that while they were together he cheated on her several times; but after talking with him for a majority of the party, you feel a connection. Before leaving, he asks for your number and asks if you’d like to have dinner sometime. You:

	A)	Give him your number. When he calls ask him about what happened in college with your old friend to see how he responds.
	B)	Give him your number. You’re flattered and felt a strong connection between the two of you.
	C)	Don’t give him your number. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
	D)	Don’t give him your number. Even though you haven’t spoken to this friend in years, you still feel uncomfortable with the idea of dating a friend’s ex-boyfriend.

Answer: A

I will admit that this answer is from a man’s perspective. Giving him your phone number does not condone what he did to your old friend, but is merely an opportunity for you to get to know him. Asking during the first phone call is mainly to see how he responds and to alert him that you are well aware of his past. If he continues to pursue you, he will either prove that he is no longer that type of man or his actions will validate that he hasn’t changed, at which point you’ll leave him.

You see an attractive man at a social gathering checking you out. You look around to make sure he’s looking at you, and he smiles. Next you:

	A)	Send the waiter over to him with a drink.
	B)	Walk over and introduce yourself.
	C)	Smile back and hold the smile for 5 seconds.
	D)	Avoid eye contact and wait for him to approach you.
	E)	Ask your friend to go over and give him your number.

Answer: C, if you want to make the best impression.

Reason: This will give him a clear signal that you are interested. It takes some courage to hold a smile that long, but the results are often quite rewarding.

A friend suggests a personal trainer whom she has employed before. When you meet him, there is an immediate attraction. You:

	A)	Hire him, avoid the attraction and focus on getting into shape.
	B)	Don’t hire him, and ask him out to dinner instead.
	C)	Don’t hire him, and mention to your friend that you felt an attraction between the two of you, in hopes of a set-up.
	D)	Hire him, and flirt at every opportunity.

Answer: D, if you can.

Reason: Don’t hire him for a long period, but just long enough so that he can spend time with you. Remember, men like to help women and nothing really makes a man feel more masculine than giving a woman instructions. Especially if she’s paying for it!

A man asks you out to dinner. On the night of the date, he calls saying that he’s sorry but he’s still in the office and he’ll call you to reschedule. You:

	A)	Say you don’t mind a late dinner, and that he should call when he’s leaving that night.
	B)	Be polite when he calls. The next time he asks you out, be certain to say how much you are glad he called; but tell him you are busy and perhaps some other time.
	C)	Agree to the reschedule, and hope that he really will call.
	D)	Suggest the following night.

Answer: B

The rule of thumb regarding men is this: Never let them take you for granted. If they do, you must almost always create distance. Not fuss, or complain or plead with them – no, they only respond well to distance. The next time he’ll think twice about canceling on you.

For the past week, your boyfriend of three months has been away on business. You have a night on the town planned with friends, when your boyfriend calls saying he’s coming back early and asks if you’d like to have dinner when his flight gets in. You:

	A)	Cancel with the girls and go to dinner with your boyfriend.
	B)	Keep your “girls night out” plans and suggest you stop by his place after your night out.
	C)	Invite him along. Your friends haven’t had the opportunity to get to know him yet.

Answer: D

While you might want to see him that evening, keeping your plans is an indication that your time is valuable to you. Being too accommodating is one of the most common reasons men get bored with a woman and end a relationship.

You are a woman who often feels out of place in the bar scene but see it as your only option to meet new men. You:

	A)	Go to the bars at least 3 times a month – a compromise between being alone and being uncomfortable.
	B)	Never go to the bars, but try one new thing each week.
	C)	Go to the bars with a large group of friends to make it a less intimidating atmosphere.
	D)	Go to the bars, but very infrequently and only as a last resort when you haven’t had a date in 3+ months.

Answer: B

If you hate going to a bar, then you won’t be at your best in that setting. In fact, instead of trying to find the perfect place, you would be better served by trying different venues each week. That will also take the pressure off going some place simply to meet men, which isn’t always bad, but is a lot of pressure.

To “put yourself out there” you:

	A)	Create a routine. Eventually someone at the local deli, on your elevator line, or at the coffee shop will take notice.
	B)	Smile at every attractive man who walks by.
	C)	Always “dress to impress.” You never know whom you might meet.
	D)	Introduce yourself to as many people as possible.

Answer: B

If you begin to smile at everyone with whom you make eye contact, both men and women, in time this habit will cause more men to approach you. Smiling at a man is an invitation. Will men you are not interested in approach you? Yes, but that’s the kind of problem you want to have. If you only smile at those you are interested in, it won’t look natural when you do smile. Make it a habit and it will produce wonderful results.

If you were to create an online profile for a dating service you would:

	A)	Hire a professional photographer, make-up artist, stylist and airbrush artist to make your online photo as attractive as possible.
	B)	Not include a photo in fear of privacy violation.
	C)	Be honest and go into detail about what you want in life and your dreams for your future relationship.
	D)	Be brief without being too general about you and your interests, and include a few photos of yourself doing various things you enjoy.

Answer: D

The idea is not to give them a perfect picture of yourself or men will think you look this way ALL the time. Just give them enough to make them curious. An Internet profile is merely an introduction. Wait until you meet someone in person to share more about yourself. Only in person can you really make a great impression.

You’ve been in a relationship for a year, but still question if he’s the right guy for you. Next time you talk to him you:

	A)	Are direct. Ask him where he sees the relationship going.
	B)	Evaluate what quality is missing in your relationship.
	C)	Wait it out. He makes you happy, and he’s a good man. A few more months to allow things to develop are worth it.
	D)	Break up. If you still have to ask yourself if he’s the one, then he isn’t.

Answer: B

If you’ve dated for a year and you’re still not certain, then there is a chance that one of your non-negotiables are being violated. If he is violating one of them, then there is no need to keep dating him. If he’s not, then examine why you are dissatisfied with him.

You’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and everything is great; but you and your man differ drastically on an opinion, and neither of you is willing to budge. Slowly, this difference in values is encroaching on your day-to-day communication. You:

	A)	Decide how important this issue is. If you decide it is critical, then you decide to hold your ground, even if the relationship ends.
	B)	End the relationship. You believe he is a great man but are not willing to compromise on this issue and fear that if you stay together you will grow to resent one another.
	C)	Avoid the conversation and try to not bring up the difference in values at all costs.
	D)	Recognize that people are entitled to their own values, and remind yourself of that every day.

Answer: A

Ideally, you would be able to find a compromise, but some issues have no middle ground. Whether you will have children or not. Whether you will work or stay home with the children. It depends on how adamant each partner is with their position. If the issue is something you cannot compromise on, then giving in to him might cause you to resent him or he might eventually discard you for someone else.

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