What’s His Attachment Style? Discover His Relationship Blueprint

Are you constantly trying to understand why he acts the way he does in your relationship?

Does his behavior leave you feeling confused, frustrated, or anxious?

Take this quick 5-question quiz to uncover his hidden relationship blueprint and gain clarity on his commitment patterns.

Answer each question based on his typical behavior and your observations.

Question 1: When you express a need for more closeness or emotional intimacy, how does he typically react?

a) He seems to pull away, gets quiet, or changes the subject, often saying he needs space.

b) He reassures you, tries to understand, and makes an effort to connect more.

c) He becomes anxious or demanding, wanting even more reassurance from you.

d) He struggles to understand what you mean by “emotional intimacy” and dismisses it.

Question 2: How does he handle conflict or disagreements in the relationship?

a) He avoids arguments, often shutting down, walking away, or refusing to discuss the issue.

b) He engages in calm, constructive conversation, seeking a resolution together.

c) He gets easily defensive, escalates the argument, or blames you.

d) He tries to lighten the mood with humor or distractions, avoiding serious discussion.

Question 3: When you spend time apart (e.g., you go on a trip, or he’s busy with work), how does he behave?

a) He seems perfectly fine, rarely checks in, and enjoys his independence, sometimes making you feel forgotten.

b) He misses you and expresses it, but he also trusts you and enjoys his own activities.

c) He texts or calls frequently, seems anxious, or expresses worry about what you’re doing.

d) He acts distant or cold upon your return, as if punishing you for the separation.

Question 4: How does he respond when you talk about your feelings, especially vulnerable ones?

a) He listens politely but rarely offers deep emotional support or seems uncomfortable with intense emotions.

b) He listens actively, validates your feelings, and offers comfort and understanding.

c) He gets overwhelmed, tries to fix your emotions, or makes it about his own feelings.

d) He minimizes your feelings or suggests you’re being overly sensitive.

Question 5: What is his general attitude towards commitment and defining the relationship?

a) He avoids labels, expresses concerns about being tied down, or changes the subject when commitment is brought up.

b) He is open and clear about his desire for a committed, long-term relationship, and his actions align with his words.

c) He pushes for commitment very early on, often seeming anxious about the relationship status.

d) He sends mixed signals, sometimes talking about a future, other times pulling away.

Quiz Results & What They Mean

If you primarily answered (a) to the questions, he likely has a Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style.

(He changes the subject when commitment is brought up.)

(He shuts down to avoid conflict)

• What it means: He values independence above all else and often suppresses emotions.

He may struggle with intimacy and commitment, pulling away when things get too close. He might appear self-sufficient but often fears being controlled or losing his freedom.

• Your experience: You might feel constantly chasing him, misunderstood, or like he doesn’t need you. His need for space can feel like rejection.

If you primarily answered (b) to the questions, he likely has a Secure Attachment Style.

(He listens actively, validates your feelings)

(Makes an effort to connect more)

• What it means: He is comfortable with intimacy and independence. He communicates openly, trusts easily, and is generally stable and reliable in relationships.

He can offer emotional support and receive it without fear.

• Your experience: You likely feel safe, respected, and valued in the relationship. He is a consistent and supportive partner.

If you primarily answered (c) to the questions, he likely has an Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style.

(He gets easily defensive, overwhelmed)

• What it means: He craves intimacy and closeness but often fears abandonment.

He may be overly dependent, constantly seeking reassurance, and can become clingy or jealous. His self-worth often depends on the relationship.

• Your experience: You might feel overwhelmed by his need for attention, or like you can never quite reassure him enough. His intensity can be draining.

If you primarily answered (d) to the questions, he likely has a Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style.

(He minimizes your feelings or suggests you’re being overly sensitive)

(He sends mixed signals, sometimes talking about a future, other times pulling away)

• What it means: He desires intimacy but is also deeply afraid of it, often due to past trauma or inconsistent caregiving.

He sends mixed signals, pushing people away when they get too close, then pulling them back. He struggles with trust and emotional regulation.

• Your experience: The relationship might feel like a rollercoaster of intense closeness followed by sudden distance.

You might feel confused and constantly on edge, unsure of where you stand.

What Now?

Understanding his attachment style is the first step, but here’s the real question:

How can you use a man’s Attachment Style to create closeness? 

Most “remedies” for Attachment disorder focus on long-term treatment and require a lot of patience from their partner.

What most don’t mention is the root cause of all Attachment disorders – improper mood regulation.

What if there was a way to influence a man’s mood so he could begin to experience moments of healthy attachment with you?

And then, he experienced these again and again, so he began to associate YOU with the feelings of healthy Attachment.

Sounds too good to be true?

In my 25 years of clinical and outpatient work, I found that women have a unique ability to influence a man on the deepest levels, if they know how.

When most women try and help a man, they often resort to being logical.

Talking about a problem, helping him see that their relationship is good or even pointing out how his fears are silly.

The problem? She’s not emotionally connecting with him.

And without that emotional connection, he falls right back into his Attachment style. It’s a vicious loop.

The secret is when a woman uses her emotions to connect with a man. I call this the Campfire Effect.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, how pretty you think you are, your body type, or whether you’re outgoing or shy.

When you create emotional intimacy, it creates a warm emotional glow, just like a Campfire.

Thousands of women have already begun using this to make men stampede across thorns for a woman who knows this power.

Stop trying to change his attachment style.

Start drawing him closer with The Campfire Effect.

Women who used the Campfire Effect

“I used the Campfire. Loved it. I have had so much more attention in the last three months than I have had my entire life. I have men hitting on me everywhere I go now. It’s almost overwhelming.

The funniest part of it all… I’m 41 and I have yet to date a man over 33 in the last 3 months since I learned how to create the Campfire within me.

I never dated younger men, and now I love it. Crazy… never thought I would! I love it! Thanks!”

Tina M. Torkelson

“Dear Bob, I began using the Campfire over a month ago. The results really are outstanding.

My partner has gone from my worst nightmare to the man of my dreams.

I never thought that was possible. We were separating, almost hating and resenting each other, three weeks ago he proposed to me, we will marry in 6 months, and I have never been happier.

I myself am trained in psychotherapy, and despite spending the last four years qualifying and taking relationship workshops, none of it has such amazing, effective, fast results.

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.”

It’s quite a legacy to leave. x
Sara D.

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