What Not To Do If Your Partner Leaves You and You Want Another Chance

As a therapist, I regularly counsel women who are suffering from a broken heart. They tearfully tell me how much they want to save their relationship and yet their fear often causes them to focus on getting their man back, no matter what.

In many cases, they do things that actually ruin any chance of saving their relationship. If you’re in this situation then please consider this advice.

1. Don’t Rally the Troops.

Don’t go around and talk with all of your partner’s friends, family, co-workers, and worst of all, your religious leader. Men are especially prone to do this. It’s a form of emotional manipulation based on guilt and shame and tends to only push your partner further away.

2. Don’t Fish For Reassurance.

This no-no is a search for a ray of hope from the words like “I love you too.” Don’t bait your partner with the proclamation “I love you.” This forces them to respond with “I love you too” which they don’t want to say. Or they may not give any response, which really hurts.

3. Don’t Repeatedly Ask Your Partner To Come Back To You.

Each time you ask, you are usually setting your chances back another week.

4. Don’t Call.

And also don’t drive by their house or show up at their work. Exercise a lot of restraint. This is very hard, but it is crucial.

5. Don’t Try To Figure This Out By Yourself.

Get a therapist or an equivalent to help you process your feelings and to develop the best approach. Telling everyone the business of your relationship will only undermine your goal and most likely make you look stupid.

6. Don’t Try To Be A Detective.

Snooping around is a violation of their personal space. Don’t go through their dressers, their email, or their car. Just because they aren’t feeling close to you doesn’t mean that there is someone else.

7. Don’t Send Your Best Friend As Your Ambassador.

This approach works better than you going to do the detective work, but you have to consider that you are only trying to gain leverage versus respecting their need for space and time.

8. Don’t Try To Make Them Jealous.

If you do this, you are playing games and not seriously making an effort to hear or respect the needs of your partner. You’re also playing with other people’s emotions.

9. Don’t Talk Bad About Your Partner.

Saying negative things about your partner or trying to get people to side with you by telling your partner’s faults or private matters is unforgivable. Using your intimate knowledge of your partner as ammunition is a low blow.

10. Don’t Display Temper Tantrums.

A lot of people use aggression to get their way, but this reinforces your partner’s notion of why they left in the first place.

11. Don’t Use Children As Pawns.

Children are effective tools to play with your partner’s heart. However, this does damage to the children, and your partner will grow to hate you. Stop trying to get your way at all costs and begin doing the right thing.

12. Don’t Be Inconsistent.

As much as possible, say or do what you mean so you don’t say or do something different every time.

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About the Author

Bob Grant, L.P.C.
Bob Grant is a Clinically Trained Relationship Expert who’s been working with women for over since 1997. He helps women create successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men. Click here to learn more about Bob.

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