Long Distance Love Guide

Secrets To Surviving The Distance Apart

What happens when you know this is the right man for you, but he’s not right beside you? Make long distance love really work by anticipating the challenges and avoiding the pitfalls.

Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart

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Benefits:

You’ll know how to cultivate a quality long-distance relationship that builds a lasting foundation for the time when you’re together again. Learn to take advantage of this temporary opportunity to strengthen your love.

Topics Covered:

The difficulty, emotional stages, and types of long-distance relationships. Knowing the love trigger, improving departures and arrivals, care packages, and the power of suggestion.

Ideal Student:

Women seeking a long-term committed relationship but have found themselves in a long-term relationship out of an unexpected circumstance or the lack of commitment.

Long Distance Love Guide

Long Distance Love Guide

• What Makes a Long Distance Relationship So Difficult
• The Emotion Stages of a Long Distance Relationship
• The Two Types of Long Distance Relationships
• Knowing Their Love Trigger
• Surefire Ways to Make Departures and Arrivals Special
• The Most Meaningful Care Packages You Could Ever Send A Lover
• Simple and Powerful Suggestions
• Bonus Chapter: What if My Partner is Keeping Us Apart? And You’re Tired of Waiting?
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Explore a Proven System That Turns Your “shaky” Long-distance Relationship into a Rock-solid, Fun & Passionate Lifetime Connection

“I took hundreds of hours of research working with real couples and created a powerful, step-by-step “Communication Blueprint” that FIRES-UP your passion… SUPERCHARGES your love… and MELTS THE MILES between you.” – Bob Grant, PLC

If you’re ready to ELIMINATE the anxiety, self-doubt, loneliness, and FEAR that DESTROYS long-distance relationships and begin a fun NEW LIFE together, then read on…

Dear Friend,

IT’S BRUTAL!

You’re in a wonderful relationship. You have so much in common. And you can’t wait to be with each other next.

One small problem:
  You’re HUNDREDS, even THOUSANDS of miles apart!

ARGH!

Whether it’s school… jobs… family… whatever… the annoying fact remains: YOU CAN’T BE WITH EACH OTHER!

Yet, you love this person. You’re convinced they’re worth waiting for. And you’re confident that you can make it work. (Although sometimes a little doubt might creep in.)

Still, you’re likely experiencing a CRAZY ROLLER COASTER of emotions!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Millions of people in LDR’s (Long Distant Relationships) feel just like you do right now, both men AND women!

For example…

… DO YOU FEEL so anxious and desperate to see and talk to your partner that when you get together—after weeks or months apart—you find yourself saying stupid, uptight things that just drive him or her away?

… DO YOU FEEL so needy or dependent on your partner for YOUR emotional well-being… that it makes them want to run away?

… DO YOU FEEL like your emotions start to go CRAZY at even the THOUGHT of your love spending time and enjoying himself without you… around other members of the opposite sex?

… DO YOU FEEL overjoyed to see your partner again… then find yourself fighting and bickering over stupid little things?

… DO YOU FEEL sometimes that you wish you never got emotionally attached… and maybe it would be easier to just walk away than try to overcome your doubts and fears?

… DO YOU FEEL so lonely sometimes that you think about hooking up with that attractive man or woman—just this one time! –then beat yourself up mentally for days or weeks after?

Have you ever had any of these feelings? I bet you have!

LISTEN: If you’re like I was when I was involved in a long-distance relationship, then you’ve experienced at least some of these feelings… over and over again!

In fact, it seems like just yesterday that I was in the same situation you’re in right now, a long-distance relationship. So I know EXACTLY what you’re going through!

But do you know the WORST part?

Knowing that you’re probably screwing up the best thing that ever happened to you—and that you have no idea how to NOT screw it up.
INCREDIBLE! I never thought it would happen to ME—a professional relationship counselor! But… alas… it did…

Hello, my name is Bob Grant.  I’m a therapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor. I’ve also been a relationship coach for over 20 years.

During my professional career, I’ve helped hundreds of men and women find and achieve more rewarding, satisfying relationships. In fact, I’ve become known as, “The Relationship Doctor”  by my clients and friends.  I have a very successful practice in Atlanta helping my clients keep their love alive, strengthen existing relationships, or rekindling that old spark.

So… you’d think I would be the LAST person to be blindsided by the roller-coaster of emotions that come along with being in a long-distance relationship!

WRONG! It was brutal!

But like you, I’m only human. So while living in Atlanta, Georgia, I met the woman I KNEW I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Oh, boy… I was giddy with happiness! (You  know the feeling, right?!)

There was just one small problem… 

The love of my life—my soul mate—owned a thriving business on the other side of the country! OUCH! Worse, I had a busy counseling practice I just couldn’t leave.

So there we were… madly in love… separated by 2,500 long, lonely miles.

I was depressed.

There was NO WAY either of us would consider ending the relationship, though. We were too much in love. But to say the next six months were tough is an understatement!

Whew… it wasn’t easy. I wanted to be with her so bad it was killing me. 

Almost immediately, it seemed, there were awkward silences and tensions between us whenever we saw each other. 

It’s so strange! We were always so RELAXED together.

Now… for some reason… we tippy-toed around certain subjects. 

Or worse… we found ourselves FIGHTING about STUPID little things that we both knew didn’t matter one bit.

The fact was, I knew we WOULD NOT survive as a couple… IF WE DIDN’T FIGURE THIS OUT!

It wasn’t easy. We both made dumb mistakes.  It was a painful trial and error!

THE GOOD NEWS? We got through it!

And now, 12 years and 4 wonderful kids later, I can say it was definitely worth the struggle!

However, I’m not sure we would have succeeded… IF we hadn’t had a plan.

And that’s the part that REALLY sucked.

“WHY IS THIS SO HARD?”

Even with all my education…  and all my years of professional experience… I was no closer to understanding the challenges of a long-distance relationship than anyone else.

One day I started to wonder… 

“Why is this so HARD for most couples?”

I mean, sure, I missed her terribly. 

It was hard enough to get up every day… go to work… pay the bills… and come home to a house without her. (It’s the lonely part… and not knowing what she was doing that killed me!)

But that was just PART of the problem. I realized that I hadn’t been dealing with the emotions that were going on INSIDE me.

And sure, I tried not to fight when we were together, or interrogate her about who she spent her time with when I wasn’t there. 

But the question that kept coming up for me was: “Why is it so hard to deal with these things we have going on INSIDE… like insecurity, fear, jealousy, and other psychological challenges?”

Well, one of the answers that I came up with is interesting. And it’s something that I think might help YOU deal with some of these same challenges…

The Shockingly Simple Secret That Changed Everything for Me (And how it will help YOU, too)

I’m about to offer you some hard-earned wisdom… as one friend to another. The answer to my problem was astonishingly simple… but it took me a L-O-N-G time to figure out.

You see, when I started trying to solve my own relationship problems, I always began by focusing on the problem itself. 

Makes sense, right? Deal with the problem… while the problem is happening. 

This was wrong… Wrong… WRONG!

Because I discoverd that when it comes to long-distance relationship issues, if you just “solve” the problem in the moment… you’re not SOLVING the problem! That’s because the next time you’re in the same situation, the SAME PROBLEM comes up again… and you play mental games to “fix” it… until the next time… and the next… and the next.

(Does this sound familiar?)

Then I had this simple realization: 

Instead of trying to deal with each individual problem as it happened I would get far BETTER RESULTS if I knew what to expect before I had the problem in the first place!

Instead of dealing with my out-of-control emotions after I was in the situation (already out of control!), I needed to arm myself with knowledge… and MAKE A PLAN… so I’d be prepared.

This one simple shift in thinking helped me keep my emotions under control, and ultimately SAVED

MY RELATIONSHIP.  (No kidding.)

What’s more, the lessons I learned throughout the process have helped make my marriage the strong, vibrant, and wonderfully close relationship it is today… many years later!

Fix the IMPORTANT Things & All the “Other Stuff” Will Fix Themselves

This new mindset allowed me to see that couples in long-distance relationships DIDN’T have to make the same mistakes I did—and which most people do.

IF you’re prepared for the major challenges… IF you know what you’re going to do BEFORE you have a problem… then many of your problems will AUTOMATICALLY solve themselves!

The thing is, every long-distance relationship has very similar challenges. So it’s not the CHALLENGES that create the problems—it’s how each person REACTS to the challenges.

Human beings are complex, and we don’t come with instruction manuals. So one of the most important things you can do is realize that you don’t have to “figure it out” on your own. If you want your relationship to succeed, it’s crucial that you find an expert source of information… and use it.

You don’t need a psychology degree, and you don’t need years of therapy, and you don’t need to spend thousands of dollars. All you need to know is where to start.

That’s where I can help you. Right now.

Because until now, no one put together complete information to help improve and save your long-distance relationship.  This was one of my biggest frustrations… there just wasn’t a comprehensive guide for addressing all of the problems you face.

Well, fortunately, that problem is in the PAST…

Because I’m Going to Help You Strengthen Your Relationship (No matter what “condition” it’s in right now)

FACT: I had the same experiences that you’re going through now.  I made the same mistakes you’re making now. And just like you, I struggled to make sense of it all.

And through my journey, I became an expert in the area of long-distance relationships that helped me save my relationship… and now you can save your relationship with my personal guide, Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart.

If you’re struggling with the painful issues that most couples in long-distance relationships face, my no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is guide is like an answer to your prayers. And I’ll tell you more about it in a minute. But first…

I want you to understand something:

Here’s the REAL Reason Long-Distance Relationships FAIL (And What You MUST Do to Save Yours)

IT’S SAD! But most couples in a long-distance relationship are trying to make it work using the limited knowledge they have.

It’s like trying to find your way through the wilderness without a map. 

No matter how far you walk… how many times you check the sun… you’re still LOST… wandering in CIRCLES… and getting more and more FRUSTRATED!

In my counseling practice, I’ve seen scores of people making this same mistake. It’s really sad. 

Fact is, the distance between you and your love can reveal the strengths and weaknesses in your partnership. And even though you CAN’T control the circumstances of your separation (job, family, etc.)… you STILL have the power to control your relationship!

Let me explain…

Here’s the “Missing Link” to Long-Distance Relationship Success…

LISTEN:  If you’re having a problem in your relationship—even if it doesn’t seem serious yet—it isn’t going to “solve itself.” 

Nope.

The pieces aren’t going to just “fall into place.”

And ultimately—unfortunately—you’ll NOT have the close, loving relationship you once did… unless you DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT NOW. (Problems, left alone, don’t solve themselves.)
Truth is, most couples won’t make it… and they’ll go their entire lives wondering what might have been.

Fortunately, it DOESN’T have to be this way for YOU.

How to SMASH THROUGH the Barriers Keeping You From the Relationship You Desire Right Now… and for the Rest of Your Life

If you’re ready to finally get your relationship solid and healthy again… and say “GOODBYE” to the problems and issues that can sabotage you as a couple… I have some fantastic news for you…

After many years of counseling hundreds of couples—many of them dealing with saving their long-distance relationships—I always thought someone needed to boil down all the most effective techniques and put them into one powerful manual that readers could use on their own—without having to visit and pay counselor. (There’s a limit as to how many people I can help in person!)

This manual had to be all meat and potatoes. No fluff. No filler. Just tested tips and techniques that really work. A simple, understandable, and DO-able way to take the best of scientific research—and everything I learned in countless counseling sessions—and create easy-to-implement tools to deal with the long-distance relationship issues that can really drive you nuts, such as…

  • Loneliness
  • Frustration
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Doubt
  • And let’s not forget the particularly nasty one:JEALOUSY!

But I couldn’t find anything that even began to “put it all together.”

The Discovery of something amazing…

So over the next few months, I had several interesting conversations with men and women who were involved in a LDR’s.

During these conversations, I quickly realized that surviving a long-distance separation was really a matter of systematically applying some basic, but VITAL principles… whether the partners were together OR apart.

It was about taking REAL SCIENCE… adding REAL EXPERIENCE… and putting these incredibly POWERFUL TECHNIQUES into practice.

Hey, I’ve been studying psychology for over 20 years… yet as soon as I applied these techniques and tactics to my own relationship, the results astounded even me!

I’ve been looking for a system like this for a LONG time…

Finally I had a unique, no B.S. way to take complex psychological concepts and turn them into easy-to-understand methods that a 5th grader could understand and implement. 

I knew at that point that I had to share this knowledge.

The result is my information-packed guide, Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart , uniquely designed for the special challenges that long-distance couples (like you and your partner) now face.

“Thank goodness I found your book! My boyfriend and I were separated for over 6 months and the information provided in ‘Long Distance Love’ literally saved my relationship. The insights about understanding your ‘love trigger’ were amazing. Even though our time apart, at times, could be extremely stressful, your book helped each of us to better understand each other, and gave us the tools needed to keep our relationship strong. We are still together and doing great!” – Emma, Sacremento, CA

I Teach You How to Press the “Reset” Button & Recharge Your Long-Distance Relationship (No Matter What Happened In the Past)

In this extraordinary guide, you’ll learn how to use the “recipe” for LDR success… pinpoint the specific problems that are threatening your relationship… and figure out EXACTLY how to fix them quickly.

 

  • YOU’LL LEARN how to (finally!) eliminate negative experiences from your past and use them to create positive pointers for the present… and a noticeably more fulfilling future.

  • YOU’LL CONQUER your inner psychological “demons,” and replace them with a solid confidence in your partner that your out-of-sight partner is behaving in ways that support—not damage—your relationship.

  • YOU’LL LEARN how to turn anxiety, fear, loneliness, anger, frustration, jealousy, and doubt into a thing of the past… and replace them with the secure knowledge that you know exactly what to do when most any relationship challenge arises.

In fact…

  • IF YOU’VE TRIED everything to solve your long-distance relationship problems and you still can’t get a handle on what your real problems are and how to solve them… Long-Distance Love was written for YOU.

  • IF YOU’RE FEELING powerless over the situation… cut off, trapped, or hopeless… if you feel like you’ve lost control of your relationship and you want it back… Long-Distance Love is especially for YOU.

  • IF YOU’RE TIRED of feeling rejected, emotionally vulnerable, or lonely… and you want to break free of the chains of insecurity and rediscover what it feels like to love full-out, with total confidence that you’re not simply being an optimistic fool, then Long-Distance Love is especially for YOU.

Honestly, you could spend years (and hundreds of dollars) in gut-wrenching, soul-searching psychotherapy trying to figure out the issues and make these changes. But with the tested and proven techniques, I reveal in Long-Distance Love, you can become your own personal counselor in just a few short hours—only as long as it takes you to read it.

And that’s just a tiny sample of what Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart can do for you.

After you download my guide, simply set aside a few minutes each day. Read just two or three pages… whatever your time allows. Try one or two techniques. See the difference they make in how you feel… how you see your partner… and what you think about your relationship. I promise you’ll be shocked at the difference these simple—but powerful—mental tools make in your life.

 

Starting On Day 1, You’ll Discover:

 

  • The # 1 mistake that couples in long-distance relationships make… and how it all but guarantees your relationship will FAIL. (This is one of those incredibly obvious mistakes that will make you slap yourself for not realizing it sooner!)
  • How to patch up the holes in your relationship FOR GOOD and build a rock-solid foundation of confidence that all loving couples “feel” whether they’re physically together or not.
  • A FASCINATING way to increase your natural “intuitive” abilities with your partner… practically overnight… so you do the things that make them feel MORE attracted to you subconsciously.
  • You HATE it when your partner has to leave again… so why do you always seem to have your worst fights just before you have to say “Goodbye?” Read the surprising truth on page 21.
  • Why human nature can actually PREVENT you from having a successful long-distance relationship… and what you absolutely must do to overcome your “bad programming” and start enjoying the loving relationship you deserve.
  • The surprising truth about the REAL reasons why so many long-distance relationships are doomed from the start. Learn this ONE thing, and you can avoid making the terrible mistakes that other couples are making this very moment.

  • How to transform your time apart so it seems to pass quicker, easier… and even make it fun! Sound crazy? Just try this clever suggestion on page 23 and you’ll be a believer!

  • The WORST way to talk to your partner when they’re far away. More fights and hurt feelings result from using this unhealthy (but popular) method of communication than any other. Here’s what to do instead.

  • Ready to throw in the towel? WAIT! Try this 1-step exercise on page 7 and see if this is really the right decision… or a giant mistake that you’ll regret for years to come.

  • Understand exactly how you’re letting your emotions control your actions… and how to turn this behavior into one that will work FOR, not against you.

  • Is your long-distance relationship just a way for one or both of you to avoid commitment? Hmmm. My no-punches-pulled checklist on page 29 will tell you if you’re just kidding yourself—or if being apart really is unavoidable.

  • Why she “phones so often” and he “doesn’t call enough.” Men and women ARE different, and so are their expectations. Learn how to accept the differences and use them to make your partner fall more deeply in love with you.

  • Do you ever feel like you’re just too “sensitive”… or overwhelmed… or just don’t know what to do? First, relax. Then use this no-nonsense technique on page 12. It will help you clear your head and make the right choice. (This one technique alone is worth the price of this guide. Yes, really.)

  • Learn how a simple shift in your attitude can stop doubts and negative emotions from sending your relationship into a destructive death spiral.

  • When you finally see each other, does it sometimes seem like you have NOTHING to talk about? It’s crazy, right? Well, here’s why it happens… and the surprisingly simple quick fix.

  • An almost “magical” technique you can use to avoid destructive fights and misunderstandings… and make your partner feel like YOU are the ONLY ONE in the world who truly understands them.

  • The ULTIMATE way to build fiery passion and anticipation. Do this, and you’ll have the BEST SEX when you see each other! Chapter 3 reveals exactly how to make your partner excited to see you again.

  • Do you save up the day’s events to tell your partner at the end of the day? You might be unwittingly creating pressure on your mate when you do so. Find out why on page 16 

  • 3 simple, but incredibly powerful words every couple should say to each other, yet seldom do. Yet these are words your partner is longing to hear you say. (Hint: It’s NOT “I love you”)

  • Do you know the 5 “Love Languages?” Learn to speak to your partner in their special  Love Language  and they’ll never want to be anywhere except in YOUR arms. (Yes, it really works.)

  • Ladies: Do you know how to create that special, unique bond with your man? Most women think they do, but 90% of them are wrong, Wrong, WRONG! Read page 17 to find out how YOU can be “the only woman in the world” for HIM.

“This is a great book!”

“This is a great book! Thanks for writing something that is so helpful when I and my husband are separated for months at a time!” – Jennifer Tallahassee, FL

But that’s not all. I also teach you:

  • The secrets of a fulfilling and loving relationship—what MUST happen to keep BOTH OF YOU from screwing it up.

  • An easy facial exercise lets your partner know how much you love them—even when they can’t see you! It’s SO simple—yet so few of us ever think about using it! (See page 26.)

  • What to do when your partner is acting distant… not calling you back… or becoming upset when you innocently ask what they’ve been doing. Don’t miss page 26, or you risk killing your relationship with subconscious resentment.

  • A sure sign that it’s not your insecurities playing tricks with your head. And that it may be time to reassess the relationship. (See page 27.)

  • The ONE thing that ultimately matters in your long-distance relationship. This one thing will predict—with uncanny accuracy—whether you’ll be truly happy together. (It has NOTHING to do with how long you’re apart.)

  • How to become your own love coach with the confidence and ability to guide your relationship through stressful times and emerge stronger than ever.

  • How to avoid letting the emotions you feel when you’re apart cause you to make STUPID mistakes that push your partner away. (If you’ve ever had problems holding on to the “keepers,” it’s probably because you didn’t do this one simple thing.)

  • Being apart can be emotionally exhausting. Keep your love batteries “fully charged” using these simple techniques on page 28.

  • How to eliminate all possibility of the other person “pulling your strings” and take total control of your emotional and internal states… no matter what the situation in your relationship. (You really need to learn this one.)

  • A common misunderstanding that dooms 99% of all long-distance relationships permanently… yet is surprisingly easy to reverse. (When you know the secret.)

  • A proven way to “block” negative emotions from influencing your thoughts so YOU are ALWAYS in charge of the way you feel.

  • How to quickly get over hurt feelings and petty misunderstands and stop letting them affect your behavior with your partner NOW… even if it’s been haunting you for months.

  • How to eliminate the “up and down” rollercoaster of feelings that often comes with long-distance relationships and create a path of CONSISTENT results. 

  • How to avoid starting a fight over things you KNOW you should let slide off your back. (Imagine how this one technique could—by itself—save your relationship!)

  • What to do when you’re tired of waiting. WARNING: This extremely effective step-by-step technique on page 34 can move your relationship forward to the next level, BUT… it can backfire! Please use with caution.

  • How to eliminate the life-sucking trap of “enabling” your partner. (Most people don’t realize this is single biggest cause of break-ups.)

  • How to be independent in a long-distance relationship in a way that makes your partner more attracted to you instead of making them doubt you.

  • Why your brain can actually be your worst enemy when it comes to “thinking things through.” PLUS… a much better way to use your smarts to zero in on what makes your partner tick and please them… like no one else can.

  • The best way to avoid “losing your cool” when you need to talk about the relationship. And how to make sure you’re taken seriously. The best part? Your partner will respect you MORE and find you MORE attractive every time you do this one trick. (I want you to contact me after using this technique and let me know how it went. I know you’ll be absolutely thrilled with how it works.)

  • How to identify EXACTLY what you want from your relationship and what might get in the way. (This dramatically helps ensure your success.)

As you can see… Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart is a treasure trove of invaluable knowledge. Yet everything you’ll learn is refreshingly easy to put into practice. 

Unlike other “programs” this is NOT one of those empty “motivational” programs that creates no permanent, lasting change. On the contrary…

Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart:

  • ADDRESSES the “inner” issues that are sabotaging your long-distance relationship…
  • TELLS YOU the specific steps for pinpointing and eliminating the things that are destroying the happiness you deserve, and…
  • EMPOWERS YOU to create a dynamic new and intimate connection between you and your partner.

No bull. If you’re struggling with issues that are preventing your relationship from achieving its full potential, this program will show you how to completely banish them from your life FOR GOOD… and you’ll start to see results the first time you put these techniques into practice.

I Teach You How to Quickly and Easily Restore… Repair and Rekindle Your Relationship Before It’s Too Late

The good news is: every long-distance relationship problem has a solution, and you’ll be able to solve yours with the tools I give you in Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart.

For example…

  • IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP is already in trouble, Long-Distance Love will equip you with the knowledge you need to develop a plan to restore closeness and trust, and rejuvenate your love quickly… before it’s lost forever.

  • IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP needs just a little boost, Long-Distance Love gives you new ways to psychologically reduce the miles between you and rekindle your passion for each other.

Fact is, there’s a very good chance that Long-Distance Love contains THE ONE BIG KEY you need to have the relationship success you want and deserve.

And I want you to have it… but only if it’s right for you.

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