There are specific things women do that keep men from wanting to be with and commit to them. Many times women are completely unaware of the signals they are sending.

The methods we share in his blog are based on real-life feedback from those who have tried our relationship advice and found that it produced a dramatic difference in their relationships with men.


Men Sometimes Forget and Need a Reminder of Relational Fundamentals

I had lunch with a friend the other day. We hadn’t seen each other in probably 3 months and before that, certainly a year. He’s successful by most standards and very efficient when it comes to running his companies. In short, he knows how to get things done. In addition, he loves his wife and […]

Understanding Men – Trying To Figure Them Out

I know it’s confusing trying to figure out men. The truth is that we really don’t use as much of our brains when it comes to relationships like women do. We get accused of being mean, selfish and rude (well men can actually be all of these), but in reality many times it’s simply

Power and Surrender

by Bob Grant I see this problem often. How women (men too) long for a confident and powerful man who is sensitive to their feelings. Most men are good at doing one or the other and I have heard numerous stories of how frustrating that is to women because

Why wait to have Sex?

Why wait to have Sex? I get responses from women all the time who ask me when they should have sex with a man. Mostly they want to know how many dates then need to go on before they can give themselves to a man/guy. Rather than simply giving them

It’s the little hunches that are most accurate

About a year ago I read a fabulous book called, “Blink.” I’ve observed how often trusting your gut turns out to be true and here was a book that explained why. I went

Meet men?

Here’s an interesting post I noticed in doing research for my upcoming book, “How to Marry the man of your dreams.” Of course the title may change in the next 6 months. These are just some ideas of

Intense vs. Dependable

How often do women (men too) confuse intensity with what is true. Because something FEELs good, they assume it is good. I wonder what would happen if there was some kind of law created that made a man and woman have to work together at a job for 6 months before they were married. It […]

Gratitude and Relationships

Here it is on Christmas and I am so thankful for the relationships that I have. In fact, for many single women having a attitude of gratitude often precedes an improvement in their relationships. Many wait until their relationships improve before they are thankful and they wonder when their luck will finally turn. As the […]

How Bad Do You Want it?

So you want a relationship to die for. There isn’t anything you wouldn’t do to have the guy of your dreams come into your life and pursue you until you gave in to be his girl and later his wife. Are you certain you can do what it takes? I mean if

Why Do Men Cheat?

Why Do Men Cheat? When I went looking on the web for research I was surprised at how little information there was for women. David Zinczenko says that among other things, men were more curious and there biology influenced them in this direction more. I agree with him that

Why Do Men Cheat – Follow up

Cindy, I did look at your site and liked what I saw. In addition, I appreciate the resources in your site, e-books, detective agencies, and articles. It pains me to say that a

Understanding Men: Why Do Men Cheat?

Understanding Men: Why Do Men Cheat? See more articles for women about

Getting Your Ex-Boyfriend Back (Secret ingredient)

I must admit that I have been pleasantly surprised at the popularity of “How Do I Get Him Back.” I knew there was a need but I didn’t know how great it was until now. While many women have taken advantage of my FREE 15-minute coaching session, some have not and have emailed me that […]

Is Marriage for White People Only?

Is Marriage for White People Only? When I first saw this article it obviously seemed racist but after reading it there appears to be some truth to it. If you want to know why I do this for a living, this article is a good starting place. How can people just give up so quickly […]

What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?

I came across this post, what am I doing wrong, and it sounded similar to so many emails I get every week. Doctor Love Coach didn’t want to make any guesses without more information and I can appreciate her response. There could be a dozen different things this woman is “doing wrong” and

The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox

What Is The Eligible-Bachelor Paradox? Yes, I do agree that women are more in control of the process of selecting a mate than most would admit. However, what they fail to understand is that for those women who know how to captivate a man, even in an age when there appear to be fewer quality […]

Getting Him Back

If you have just had a relationship end, then you are most likely feeling overwhelmed (assuming you want him back) and perhaps a bit desperate. Nearly every day my office staff gets several phone calls from women who want to speak with me – RIGHT NOW. They don’t mean to be pushy, they’re just scared, […]

Marriage Advice for the Ages

Marriage Advice for the Ages Some advice is predictable (better communication), some is fun (sex is good for a marriage) and some is just simple. In fact, sometimes the answer to a successful marriage can be found in

Women’s Fashion for Men

This is just one man’s opinion, but you’ll find his opinion is more universal than not. Oh, and the stuff he doesn’t like,

Women Haven’t Adapted to Casual Sex

I can sometimes do without the almost religious fervor of evolution this and evolution that, but the findings are quite interesting. I wonder if women just weren’t designed for

“Men Love Long Hair” – Advice from a Woman?

Here’s the quote from the owner/founder of The Millionaires Club. It’ always interesting when a woman points this out. She also said this,

What Happened to the Real Men?

Every now and then a reader of “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave,” will send me an e-mail complaining that my book suggests that women should become subservient to men. They speak of equality, and not allowing a man to ever take advantage of them, etc. They give me the impression that a […]

If You Want More Sex, Do the Dishes

This one is for the guys. Especially the married ones. It may not make sense to you but many women have told me

How to Tell if He’ll be Faithful

I read this post which I think represents the views of a lot of women. Apparently her bad experiences with men has made her

The Danger of Chick Flicks

It’s similar to men that use Pornography as an escape (Notice I said similar, not the same).

Dating Advice for Single Parents

Dating Advice for Single Parents If you’re a single parent trying to date, it can be tough. Thinking about dating and having the time to date sometimes seem as far apart as East is from West. Questions run through your mind… Am I being selfish? Do I have the time? Who is going to watch […]

Top 10 Blogs For Women I was pleasantly surprised “Understanding Men” was selected as one of the Top 10 Best “Love” Blogs for women by

Emotional Dependency – Men Love It

Whenever you hear the word “dependency,” most of us think in terms of some form of addiction or disease. It tends to imply something that should be avoided, fixed, or terminated. Most individuals with dependencies are those with

What He Wants

Most women ask me what they can say to make a man act or respond in a certain way. While there are some things you can say that work better than others,

5 Biggest Internet Dating Mistakes

So you have been sloughing through those endless profiles on your Internet dating site and have come up with someone who interests you. There has been an exchange of emails. He sounds fun and witty and you’re beginning to look forward to his messages.

7 Lies Women Believe About Men

It’s been a while I know. I’ve been working on new products and here is the latest. 7 Lies Women Believe About Men – 2 CD set. What are those lies you ask? Here are 2 to begin with:

The Narcissist Test

I found this test while doing some research. Not the most scientific, but it gives you a pretty good indication

Different Kinds Of Affairs?

I saw this and thought it was interesting. It details

Couples Who Fight – One Word Makes A Difference

I’ll admit I love research. Especially the kind that provides insights that are simple to use and repeat. That’s why

Can Tiger Save His Marriage?

I had lunch with a couple of women today who asked me if Tiger can save his marriage. My reply? Yes, Tiger can save his marriage if…

Jake Pavelka – The Bachelor

I’d like to believe that ‘Bachelor’ Jake Pavelka and his new fiancee were going to live happily ever after. I really would like to see them succeed, but

Dating Questions

As you might imagine in my line of work I have become familiar with many sites that offer dating advice. Most of these sites are transient, temporary and are built with the simple intention of

What Do Guys Like

I just got permission from a woman who bought 2 of my ebooks to use her picture on my website. She doesn’t want her name mentioned (so I won’t), but the image she sent me of her wedding day is absolutely beautiful. I still remember

Sex with Your Ex?

I was surfing the internet just looking for ideas for my newest ebook, “What’s He Thinking?” and for some reason I stumbled upon this title. I am reminded of

In Love With Love?

I saw this article and I’m reminded of

Kim Kardashian Is Single…Again?

You’ve heard me say it so many times. What makes a man connect with you isn’t simply about being pretty enough. Take Kim Kardashian. Do you really think

Getting Hurt By A Man – Elin Nordegren – Tiger’s Ex

I’ll admit I haven’t read the article, but judging from the cover she seems to be saying all the right things. What I do wonder is

Online Dating – My First Time

I remember what I said to myself when I first heard about internet dating.  “Okay. I’ll take a look, but I’m not saying that I’m going to participate in online dating just yet. I’ve heard the success stories and the horror stories about online dating. I do not have any first-hand experience to share with […]

Best Dating Related Blog

I’d like to ask a favor. is doing its 2011 Readers Choice Awards and is taking nominations. It would mean a lot if you would take the time to nominate me for Best Dating-Related Blog and Best Dating-Related Book of 2010 (The Woman Men Adore).

Dare To Dream

What you believe has a huge impact on not only how your life turns out, but how others see you. It’s more than simply being “positive.” It has to do with

Why Monogamy Matters

It seems I hear from countless women who tell me, “No one does that anymore.” Well, a lot of people don’t believe in monogamy and it’s getting to the point that a lot more don’t even believe in the value of getting married. It’s almost enough to make me wonder

Understanding Men Blog

Understanding Men Blog Here’s my first video posting. I’ve always given relationship advice that reflected what was actually helpful instead of telling my clients

Why You Need To Get Your Man To Adore You

Guest Post: One of the things that you have to find out about relationships on your own is that when they are working well the time flies by, but when you are having niggles it can really drag. It is during that ‘dragging time’ that doubts can

Kim Kardashian – What’s Wrong Here?

Regardless of whether you think Kim “staged” her wedding or it honestly ended, there’s something wrong with her. I don’t mean crazy, but it’s important to realize that patterns don’t lie. She’s got more money than most people even dream of and she’s very pretty and since she’s

Secret to Marriage

Marriages that are passionate are the ones when each person realizes that passion is created rather than it simply happens. So often singles think that if they simply pick the right person, they’ll have a wonderful marriage.

What Guys Like – The Secret

Here’s an article I just read about the difference between being hot vs. pretty. I’ve said it so many times, but it’s just as true today –

Do Men Always Cheat?

I saw this article and was intrigued by the title. Written by researchers that have discovered the truth that men will ALWAYS cheat.

Living Together Better Than Marriage?

So someone sent me this link about how living together is better than marriage. Let’s be honest,

How to Write a Killer Online Dating Profile

Without a doubt, Internet dating is a simple, quick, and fun way to find the best people possible. Although at first, online dating was regarded as a masquerade that led many people to debate its efficiency and predict an unfortunate future for this practice, today the phenomenon enjoys a lot of exposure and positive feedback […]

Why Susan Dates Bad Boys (Jerks)

For the past five years Susan has been on a dating roller coaster. Each guy she dates has two identical qualities; they are always exciting and eventually treat her like dirt!

Playing Games In Dating Is Not Manipulation — Sometimes Playing Games is Good

Many women ask me how they can get what they want without “playing games.” The idea of not directly telling a man exactly what they want (ie. “I want a relationship”), when they want to tell him, appears to be somehow disingenuous to some women. To these women, and many others, they fear that anything […]

What Not To Do If Your Partner Leaves You and You Want Another Chance

As a therapist, I regularly counsel women who are suffering from a broken heart. They tearfully tell me how much they want to save their relationship and yet their fear often causes them to focus on getting their man back, no matter what. In many cases, they do things that actually ruin any chance of […]

Pre-Marriage Counseling: Why Would You Bother?

I had a friend who was getting married to her long-time partner. They had lived together for a number of years and owned property together. It seemed that marriage would simply perfect what they had – make it permanent.

Three First-Date Guidelines For a Better Experience

Contrary to popular belief, the priority on a first date should be more about not making a mistake rather than making a good impression. Face it, the very fact that a guy asks you for a date means that you have already made a good impression. Because of this, you don’t have to impress him; […]

Love Isn’t Something That Just Happens to You — It’s a Conscious Choice!

Why doesn’t love last? If you’re like most people, you’ve probably asked yourself the above question — not just once, but several times. With about 50% of marriages ending in divorce, and pre-marital relationships failing at an even higher rate, I’m certain you’ve seen your share of failed relationships among your friends and family members […]

3 Reasons He Hasn’t Asked You Out Again

You’ve just had the “perfect” date… then wondered why he never asked you out again? You seemed to have such a great connection. You had fun. He seemed to have a good time as well. Yet he never called you again. What went wrong? This scenario is unfortunately common, one many women have experienced. Here […]

Divorce Recovery: Healing The Relational Pain and Growing Yourself

If there was one part of my job that I could do without, it is watching couples spiral down the path to divorce. While most couples I see don’t end up getting a divorce, there is that small percentage who are so filled with resentment that either one or in some instances both of them, […]

He Never Knew What CommitMEANT

Why do men struggle with commitment? This question about the tendency in men to find it hard to commit seems to surface over and over again from women all around the world. If I could identify in a few simple strokes of the keyboard on a page of my site the answer to this question, […]

First Date Magic for Women

At least once a month, one of my clients will come into my office upset about how her date went the previous weekend. Either she feels she did something wrong or worries that the guy didn’t seem to be too interested in her.

Rejection, Fear and Dating

One of the most universal needs that every woman has is to feel special. It’s not silly or childish but actually a very deep longing in the heart of every woman. Some women try and minimize this need by staying busy and productive so as not to notice the pain that comes when they realize […]

Why Nice Men Don’t Call Back

And the two reasons why you haven’t done any of the five things listed below… One of the biggest questions women have about men is “Why didn’t he call back?” We know why insensitive men don’t call back;

Living together before Marriage???

This topic has been debated since the dawn of Women’s liberation. What’s sad is that usually the argument is only between those who say it is and isn’t morally wrong. Nothing wrong with that discussion but there is more to this question than simply

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Why Relationships are Difficult

A large part of my practice is made up of people interested in relationship advice. Not really by design (I started out working with teenagers), it just sort of worked out that way. Most often when someone comes in they want to know what to do. The Failure of the 5-Step Approach They request a […]

Is Your Boyfriend Having Doubts About The Relationship? What To Say When He Has Them

You’ve been dating a great guy for about nine months now and things seem to be going very well. You are attracted to him, enjoy hanging out, and can see a great future ahead. All is well… until he tells you that he’s having doubts about the relationship. Fortunately, this doesn’t mean that the relationship […]

3 Turnoffs That Make A Man Pull Away

Of all the questions I get from women around the world about men, these are the most common. “Why can’t I get a guy to notice me?” “What did I do wrong that made him not interested in being more than friends?” What usually follows is their list of everything they believe they did wrong […]

Understanding the Secret of Scarcity: Does Your Man Truly Value You?

One of the great lessons of love is known as “the scarcity factor.” Plain and simple: people tend to want what they cannot have!

Don’t Send Your Ex That Text Message (or Email)!

When a man has stopped contacting you, should you contact him or send him an email telling him that you have moved on? Here’s the quick answer… “A Closure Letter makes him think you’re needy and desperate”.In fact, it’s one of the biggest mistakes women make that women do that ruin any chance of saving their […]

Is Your Fear of Commitment Holding You Back?

In my counseling practice, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Someone like Allison who sought my help because she was in two relationships that she admitted wasn’t good for […]

Clear Communication or Crazy Talk?

Kevin apologized to Melissa after he missed an appointment. It was a simple misunderstanding, so Melissa said she wasn’t really upset, just frustrated and disappointed. But Kevin sensed there was more to it. Melissa’s smile seemed forced, and he felt there was more she wanted to say, but Melissa insisted they forget about it and […]

The Two Types of Men: Mr. Fabulous vs. Mr. Strong and Steady

Here’s a really simple way to evaluate men. Let’s just put men into two categories. One group of men we’ll call

The Argument Women Can’t Win

When it comes to fighting and disagreeing with men, women frequently make a critical mistake which ends up causing

How to Know if a Man is Wonderful

I’m often asked by women how they can tell if a man is good for them. Usually what they want to know is how they can make sure they don’t pick someone who is going to hurt them, again.

When It Comes Relationships: Patterns Don’t Lie

Many men and women know the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result) and in spite of this knowledge, they continue to date or marry the same type of person while expecting a different result.

Sex Is Different for Men: Explore What Causes a Man to Bond with a Woman

I sell an e-book. In fact, we sell several of them. They’re for women to help educate themselves on what does and doesn’t work in regards to relationships with men.

What Do Men Really Want?

What do men REALLY want? If you asked most women this question, the answers would be predictable. Women believe that men want: A woman that always looks perfect The woman they can’t get Someone who will never complain Yes, it’s true that if you asked men what they want, there are many who would agree […]

Biggest Mistakes Women Make

Many times when men pull away, women are left wondering “What happened? What went wrong? Was it something I said? Something I did?” They agonize and replay last conversations and meetings over and over. The biggest mistake women make is not understanding how men think and feel. The very things they do to try to […]

What Guys REALLY Like & What They Want In A Woman

With so many advice websites and publications giving so much advice about men, it’s often difficult for a woman to know exactly what guys like. In addition, women have more dating options available to them and yet so many end up wondering why they can’t find anyone! So here are some tips for women on

What To Do When He Says, “Call Me”

What do you say when that cute guy you’ve had your eye on calls you? You may feel nervous and excited when he calls, even if you’re an adult, but that’s okay. It’s normal to feel like that. After all, this could be the start of a new relationship and you don’t want to do […]

3 Ways To Get What You Want From A Man

by Bob Grant When a guy asks you for a date the first time, he does so because he believes that you are someone he considers fortunate enough to spend an evening with. For whatever reason(s), the woman he invites has conveyed the idea that she is – for lack of a better term – […]

Creating Emotional Dependency

Whenever you hear the word “dependency,” most of us think in terms of some form of addiction or disease. It tends to imply something that should be avoided, fixed, or terminated. Most individuals with dependencies are those with addictive personalities and thus rely on others to meet their needs and fulfill their responsibilities. Not the […]

50 Universal Truths About Men

Ladies, here’s the list of what men really think, want and desire in a woman and relationship.

What You Call Him, He Will Often Become

Years ago, there was a therapist I worked with named Susan. Susan told me she went to a seminar that a friend of ours named Steve was giving. Since she thought she may want to do similar seminars in the future about marriage, she wanted to see how Steve presented his thoughts and insight. Susan […]

3 Signs That He’s Interested in a Relationship

1. He Makes Good Eye Contact Since guys are visual, it goes without saying that they stare at women whom they find attractive. This is significant because, as a general rule of thumb, men tend to

4 Women Men Avoid

by Bob Grant The Needy Little Girl This woman is every man’s worst fear. This type of woman is whiny and frequently verbalizes how desperate she is to get married. What is so frightening about this type of woman is that men can’t often identify her until

5 Reasons Why Marriage Is A Great Thing

I hear from women often that tell me how some of the men they date will tell them that marriage is just a piece of paper. They wonder why be so traditional and old fashion.

“Girls On HBO” – Why Is Pitiful So Popular?

For years I’ve spoken to hundreds of women who wanted a relationship that always seemed to evade them. It wasn’t for a lack of effort, at least that’s not how it appeared to them. Most of them worked hard at their job, focused on being independent and dated (sometimes frequently).

Consultation With Bob Grant PLC

 One-on-One Consultation – Bob Grant PLC- Welcome! Since you’re here I’m assuming you’ve got a situation that isn’t easy to fix. At least you’ve probably read lots of books or ask most of your girlfriends for suggestions and nothing is working. While I offer a number of products, there is nothing that gets faster results […]

Please Don’t Do This, It Only Leads To PAIN

Researchers found a huge decline in happiness four years into a marriage with another decline in years seven to eight. In fact, half of all divorces occur in the first seven years of marriage, which gives rise to the popular term “the seven-year itch. This is what often happens if you just leave your marriage […]

“He’s Got Issues!”

I spoke with a client recently and just looking at her….she’s very attractive, gets lots of offers from men. Yet, she can’t find that one man she wants to spend her life with. The latest guy said something that screamed in her head, “issues!”

How Guys Really See You

So I’m surfing the internet and come across this.  Tell me what’s your first reaction? Honestly, what did you think when you saw the guy with his hands in the air as proud as a peacock? Here’s why this is important for you, it’s not that every guy is as trashy as this one, but […]

What Is It Worth To Get Your Man Back?

I’ve always found it quite amazing to observe how dramatically a woman’s life changes when she has the enduring devotion of the man she wants.

How He Really Sees You

I know it may seem like I’m often telling women that they don’t have to be stunningly beautiful, pencil thin and always positive.  Some of my clients have slyly suggested that I’m simply being nice (like something their mother would tell them). Please listen when I say this, “Men aren’t nearly as harsh on you […]

His First Impression Of You & What He Wants You To Know

When you first see the guy you’ve always wanted to meet, your heart starts racing. Every thought in your head starts spinning faster and faster as you wonder, “Does he even notice me?” I understand why you’re nervous. That’s why I get so many questions about how to make a great impression on a man. […]

What’s The Secret Ingredient To Save a Relationship?

Are you in a spot where you feel like your relationship is failing and you need an ingredient that you can add that will fix all? Let’s look closer at what the missing ingredient could be.

Sorry, He Doesn’t Like Drama

by Bob Grant I know what you feel when you think he isn’t listening. It’s like you just want to shake him and unscrew the top of his head so you can look inside to figure out exactly what he’s thinking. Even when you tell him that he’s not listening, that’s not what bothers you […]

How Do I Know If He’s Interested?

Hey Bob….How Do I Know If He’s Interested? Forget trying to read his mind or look for whether he turns a certain way. To be honest, being a real master at reading body language takes years to perfect. Surely you don’t want to spend all your time learning that do you? Just try my suggestion […]

Hey Guys – Here’s A Tip About Women You’ll Thank Me For

Most of the time I talk with women. Not because that was my goal when I started out, but because women seem to be more interested in understanding their relationships, self-improvement, etc.

Maybe Marriage Isn’t For You

Maybe Marriage Isn’t For You I found this article online. Actually someone posted it on Facebook. I assumed that it would be from a Progressive angle saying that marriage was old fashion, etc… Instead I was reminded of why I got married. Click Here to Read Marriage Isn’t For You  

What If You Never Found Love?

I know the title is kind of cryptic, but hear me out, please. I’m asking because deep down in the heart of almost every man and woman they’ve asked that question…privately.

What Men Need To Live A Happy Life

I found this article that was fascinating. It’s a study conducted over several decades regarding what makes men happy and fulfilled. I offer this to you so that you’ll have a better understanding of the man you love…or will love. Suffice it to say, that men crave the close connection of a relationship just as […]

From 90 Days To Soulmate Webinar

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The Secret To Understanding Men

Do you know the most common concern I hear from women who come to me for relationship counseling? It can be summed up in 6 words:

You Don’t Have To Try So Hard

by Bob Grant In the 16 years that I’ve been doing relationship counseling, I’ve rarely come across a female client to whom I’ve had to say, “Try harder” when it comes to relationship building.  In fact, most of my female clients try so hard that they find themselves exhausted.

The Top 2 Man Repellents

If you’re a single woman wondering why you can’t sustain a relationship with a man, or a married woman wondering why there’s no intimacy in your marriage, I may have information that could shed light on your predicament.

How To Heal A Broken Relationship

If you’ve just had a relationship end or fear the end is coming then you realize that something is broken and needs repair. However, there is good news is that most relationships can be saved.

Make Him Fall In Love With You — Get What You Want From A Man

What if you knew how to make a man fall in love with you – and stay devoted to you forever? Sound to good to be true? It’s not.

Are You Making These 4 Huge Dating Mistakes?

Do you get tired of the whole dating “thing”? Do you get sick of superficial coffee meetings with “Potentials”? It’s not just you! The dating scene doesn’t work. So don’t take it personally. You are set up to fail before you even show up. The “dating system” is flawed, period.

3 Ways to Get His Attention the Right Way

Whether you’re currently in a relationship or marriage–or you’re between relationships, we’d be willing to bet that at some time or another you’ve secretly (or not-so-secretly) longer for more attention from your partner. Maybe his eyes are on the computer or tv screen when you’re trying to connect with him and all you get are […]

A String of Relationship Advice About Men

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about men? Always be positive, improve your self-esteem, and never act “needy.” It’s no wonder that so many women feel they have to be perfect to arouse a man’s passion for them. What if I told you that you could make a man adore you just […]

How Can The Woman Men Adore Help You Even When All Else Has Failed??

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5 Reasons Why Men Fall for the ‘Other’ Woman

Relationships are hard to maintain under the best circumstances, so extraordinary challenges can be extremely difficult to overcome. Extramarital affairs are some of the most damaging developments for couples, regardless of how long they have been together. On the surface, many affairs don’t make sense; especially when married men fall for the “other” woman. But […]

He Said He Was Leaving. She Ignored Him

I saw this article and was struck by it’s simplicity and power. What I want to call your attention to isn’t the simplicity part, but rather the conviction she has about her family.  What happens in any relationship; marriage, work, parent-child, is when ever there is a conflict it is always the person with the […]

Don’t Let a Man E-String You Along

As Your Guy Spy into the Male Mind, I tell you our secrets so you can create secure, loving bonds with relationship-ready men. I’d like to tell you about a nasty habit some men get into that leads to heartbreak almost every time. But I’ll also tell you how to avoid falling into this common […]

How to Single-Handedly Improve Your Marriage

Did you know that it is perfectly possible to improve your marriage on your own without any input from your husband? If you are keen to turn around a marriage that has become dull or even desolate, try the simple steps below to make your marriage better.

What Drives Relationships?

Over the years of talking to different people about relationships and marriage, I’ve noticed several common traits in people’s motivation to be in a relationship. I’m sure each one of us can relate to one of them thinking about our own relationships at some point in time. These common traits are emotions (love, excitement, affection, […]

How To Get Past First Date Jitters

For the last eight months, my life has been a little hectic. I decided to take a break from online dating during that time after one guy became very frustrated by how unavailable I was. He was right. It’s kind of hard to start a relationship when

How to Tell if He’s Looking for Marriage

You’re a single woman, in your twenties or thirties. You’re looking for marriage and kids but you don’t want to waste your precious ‘fertility years’ dating men who are not

3 Signs It’s Time To Take A Break From Dating

It can be fun and exciting to get dressed up, put on a sexy pair of heels and go out to dinner with a cute guy you met online. It’s fun to have someone tell you how beautiful you are, share

He Is Not Romantic

It is an age old story:  you have been dating for a while.  You expressed love for each other, combined your bachelor pads into a snazzy one bedroom in the East Village and adapted Mr. Whiskers.  Everything is going great, except…. You can’t put your finger on it, but

3 Common Dating Mistakes Single Women Over 50 Make That Causes Them To Struggle With Dating—And How To Avoid Them Forever!

Dating over 50 can be challenging.  The reason is most of us didn’t date when we were younger. We sort of fell into relationships in high school or college that often began as friendships from hanging out in class, lunch, or youth events together.

Love, Jealousy and Relationships

Relationships, love and in particular jealousy present each of us with a unique opportunity to better understand ourselves.  Jealousy is most often the result of attachment and expectations, beliefs, projections, delusions, guilt and low of self-esteem.

4 Obvious Signs You’ve Found Long-Lasting Love

Every woman wants to know what she needs to look for when trying to decide if she has found long-lasting love… the kind of love that is shown in movies and written about by poets.

8 Signs He’s Going to Break Up With You

Have you been wondering if your guy might be on the way out the door? Has he pulled away, leaving you wondering if a breakup is coming? Sometimes it is hard to tell if your relationship problems

How to Become Irresistible — The “Universal Attractant” Will Make You Irresistible

Studies show that we all find different traits attractive in dating. No one likes the same thing.

How To Survive When Your Man Cheats

We all enter love relationships with the hope it will last forever. But what should you do if the man you love betrays you? Talk to your girlfriends… or curl up with a gallon of ice cream… or vow to never fall in love again?

One-Liners Guaranteed to Bring You Closer

Who knew? Just a few little words can make all the difference in a relationship! In my work with couples, I’ve found that certain words and phrases, repeated often enough, are key to staying connected to the one you love most. What are they? After “I love you,” here are six simple phrases guaranteed to […]

What Men Crave – His Deepest Desire In A Woman

Do you think you know what men crave more than anything else?

7 Romantic Habits of Passionate Couples

Do you ever wish you were that couple in the restaurant that is so into each other you cannot take your eyes off of them? What do they have that you don’t? What is their secret to passion and romance?

His Deepest Desire In A Woman

Do you think you know what men crave more than anything else? If I ask most women this question, I’d likely get such responses as: – Men want a woman who always agrees with him. – Men crave a Sex Kitten – she always says yes to his request. – All men want someone with […]

How Do You Change Your Life Script?

The first step is to wake up and realize you have choice.  In every phase of your life, you need to be mindful and aware.  Pay attention to your surroundings.  Know that no matter what things might look like or what situation you currently find yourself in, you always have a choice. And know that […]

Six Ways to Re-spark your Sex Life after a Baby

Having a baby is an amazing experience. It brings out all sorts of qualities in you both and unleashes a fierce love that never dies. However, despite this many couples say their love life grinds to a halt. In some cases it can literally take years to get back on track.

5 Reasons Women Mess Up on Love

It’s not fair.  Finding love is so important—yet most of us get it wrong at least once. I wish there were a magic wand I could wave so you could recognize and hold onto a good love match.  The best I can give you in this brief article is to provide you with a cautionary […]

The Communication Mindset That Can Save Your Marriage

Whether you’ve been married for 5 months, 5 years or even 50 years, one of the biggest obstacles to lasting passion and love is communication.

3 Clues You Are Dating a Toxic Man?

Women desire relationships filled with excitement and passion, but those under ridden with drama and trust issues will lead us down the path of dating bad boys. Friends try to warn each other about the men they are seeing. Have you ever been told that he’s no good for you?

Is it Love-or Rebound?

Top Questions You Should Ask You! So you feel you’ve fallen in love again! Yet, there’s this imaginary bee buzzing around your ear that’s making you wonder: “Is it love—or rebound? How do I know? “ Then you feel that punch of doubt in your stomach. The thought goes through your mind: “Oh no—am I […]

Common Marriage Mistakes Made by Women

Most if not all marriages go through strained periods – understanding that this is perfectly normal and can be addressed will give you a more positive, ‘can do’ attitude for improving your marriage.

A Powerful Process To Attract The Right Man — Mr. Quality & Mrs. Intentional

Finding your Mr. Quality is more a battle of your own mind than it is meeting the guy. We blame our town, our parents, we blame men but deep down we have fears and anxieties that keep us stuck in dead-end relationships.

Dating Games, Why Women Play Them, & How To Escape The Trap

Is your intention to find a person with who you can have a good trustful relationship with? And you are meeting potentially suitable partners and in the beginning, everything goes well, but after a little while, you start being aware of the words, phone calls, text messages, initiation of dates and activities, etc.

Why Is Love So Hard? How To Find and Keep Perfect Love

Many women struggle with either finding the right relationship or keeping the one they have on good terms. And it’s not uncommon for women to try and fix the situation at home with slow progress and a lot of frustration.

He Doesn’t Think Like You (and he never will)

He really doesn’t think like you and he can’t understand why you don’t think as he does.

3 Ways to Stop Jealousy Meltdowns

You’re out with your spouse or lover and IT happened–

5 Attraction Principles EVERY Single Woman Needs to Know

Are you single and looking? If you are a woman, whether you’re single or otherwise, you will benefit from reading the below…

3 Benefits For Why Dating Multiple Men Is OK

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that men and women go about dating in very different ways. Men don’t leave a first date and plan out their wedding to you in their heads, instead they assess if they would like to get to know you further.

I Took My Husband’s Name Upon Marriage – Am I a Pathetic Chattel or Victim of Patriarchal Control?

Am I really a Pathetic Chattel or a Victim of Patriarchal Control Just Because I Took My Husband’s Name upon Marriage? There’s a disturbing debate raging. It sprang up from inside feminist circles. It seeks to undermine marriage and family values by oppressing those whom it purports to free. What is this topic that has […]

Understanding the Dating Program Language — A Technology Metaphor

As you develop your own set of dating parameters, consider the fact that every individual has their own way of processing data and running their programs for each situation to determine whether or not to connect hard drives, if you get my application of the technological language.

What He Really Means When He Says He’s Scared

I’ve had several clients over the years who are beautiful, smart, and successful. Most come to see me because everything is working except for one thing: They long to get married and have a family of their own. Usually, they visit my office right after they’ve met someone wonderful and they’re afraid it won’t work […]

What To Do When Everything You Say to One Another Turns into a Fight…

It can happen in the best of relationships… You used to get along so well and then it’s like a switch was thrown and now you can’t talk to one another about anything without it turning into a huge fight. No matter what it’s about, the result is the same…

5 Dead-End Conversations that Spoil a First Date

On a first date, what do you tend to talk about? Many single women end up discussing work, why they are single, how hard dating is, health problems, kids, weird dating stories, problems with an ex, or details of their divorce or last relationship. Sadly, none of these topics help a man know you at […]

Is He Difficult? Or Completely Impossible?

Last week, my friend decided to call out a guy she’s known for over a year on his bad behavior. She sent him a text asking why he often flaked on their plans and was sporadic in contacting her. She forwarded me the text he sent in response. Here it is:

When Women Cheat: Overcoming Blame and Disempowerment

Have you cheated on your partner, husband, or boyfriend? Have you thought about cheating? You may be surprised at what may be at the root of your desires.

Really Understanding Men – From A Woman’s Point of View

Admit it, you’ve been curious about a man at some point in your life. It’s so hard to get into a man’s head, to know what’s going on with him, or to know what’s causing him to behave as he does. Yet, we still want to understand what makes a man do the things he […]