A Deeper Connection
Is Marriage for White People Only?
October 8, 2007
by Bob Grant, L.P.C.
Is Marriage for White People Only?
When I first saw this article it obviously seemed racist but after reading it there appears to be some truth to it. If you want to know why I do this for a living, this article is a good starting place. How can people just give up so quickly and
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say that this is a trend and it’s only going to get worse.
Now, does this apply to everyone? No it doesn’t and it certain isn’t limited to one race. Yet because of this pattern, it unfortunately falls on women to do what many of these men will not do, which is grow up.
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About The Author – Bob Grant, L.P.C.
Bob Grant is a Clinically Trained Relationship Expert who’s been working with women for over since 1997. He helps women create successful, satisfying, and fulfilling love relationships by simply understanding men. Click here to learn more about Bob.

I DONT THINK THATS TRUE. I MEAN IN REALITY YOU SEE WHIT PEOPLE WITH THE PERFECT COUPLE, TWO KIDS A DOG AND A WHITE FENCE.BLACK COUPLES CAN BE A MARRIED COUPLE AS WHITE PEOPLE. TO ME THAT STATEMENT IS RACIST. SO WHAT TO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THE BLACK/WHITE COUPLES, OR LATINO/CHINESE, HUH? THINK ABOUT THAT.
I didn’t even have to read the article to understand the title. As an African American woman, I sometimes ask myself if white woman are the only ones who find men (of various colors) who are willing to settle down with them and treat them well. I’m a beautiful, intelligent, and very kind woman, but Black men have too many issues sometimes- and it’s their insecurities that get in the way. They don’t know what to do with a good woman of color when they find one, rather, they seek out the women who are gold diggers, rude and mean, and then categorize all women in a particular ethnic group. I’m over the drama! That’s why I’m open to dating lots of different men. But it’s still a fact that white woman have a better chance of getting married- and staying married than people of color! That’s not a racist comment, it’s reality for most women of color. I also speak on behalf of other women of color- just not Black women.
So much to say, so little room in which to say it. Many men are passive aggressive, but I have found that Black men, in particular, claim the title in this particular category. It took me years to come to this conclusion (see book, Living W/The Passive Aggressive Man). Black men (and I know that I am generalizing) don’t feel too good about themselves, which, in my opinion, means that they don’t place a high value on themselves. If a man doesn’t value himself, how can he value his woman. It’s impossible. He can only build her or lift her up to where he is … or less. Thus, if he meets a reasonably confident, kinda funny, 4-yr college degree gal, and likes her ways, but doesn’t want her to feel too good, then he makes certain that he finds her flaws and presents them to her. That way he can keep her under his thumb. Also, I don’t believe that a good deal of Black men feel confident that they can support a family. I don’t know what it is, but there is something that concerns them when it comes to money and family. They feel like children are a financial curse and many “run” away from their progeny when the child hits planet earth.
Marriage is for all who desires it. Im a black woman who is planning on getting married to a wonderful black man. What we do is we read books on marriages and we comply with the information given to us. The problem with MOST BLACK WOMEN is that they dont know how to submit to thier husbands, women need to understand that whether your are independent & making money you still have to submit to your man. Black women in some cases need to go back to the basic, back into the 50s & 60s to maintain your marriage. GOD intended for us to be married, when GOD created Adam, HE gave Eve to him. GOD said Adam needed a help mate, and our jobs as wives is to be exactly that. We are to helps our husbands. Would love to give your more information and break it down more. Email me at camedra0629@gmail.com