Do you ever feel like you have to work so hard just to get even the littlest bit of love and attention from the man you’re with?
Spending hours on your hair and makeup for him….
Baking him his favorite cookies…
Sending him long texts about how much you love him…
Doing whatever you can think of to prove your love to him, to show him that you’re the right one for him?
And furthermore, you feel like you barely get anything back in return!
In fact, I was doing so much, and I was so wrapped up in what I was doing, that I didn’t even realize that I’d been “working overtime” …it just started to feel natural to me.
Sometimes you have to take a giant step back, and try to look at your situation from someone else’s point of view, to see how much effort you’re actually putting into your relationship.
…Sometimes it feels so hard to hand over the reins and just give up control though…
Ask yourself how tired you’re feeling – have you done that lately? If the answer is that you feel depleted and exhausted, it’s a good indication that you’ve been working way too hard for his love.
But you can turn it around on a dime…
You can turn it around so that he’s giving you way more than you’d ever imagined, and so that you’re not the one doing all the “work” in your relationship.
The secret is this: Learn to love yourself MORE than you love him.
Close your eyes and imagine that you’re lying in a huge bathtub filled with hot, gooey, chocolate-y fudge…(Let’s just equate chocolate with self-love for now)
The scent of the yummy, melted chocolate makes you feel all warm and happy inside…the hot, gooey-ness of the chocolate feels smooth on your skin like it’s caressing your body…
Take that in for a moment.
Now I want you to switch it up – Imagine yourself lying in an almost empty bathtub, with just a few drip drops of cooled off, almost hardened chocolate.
Which visual feels better to you?
The first one, I’m sure.
When you can master loving yourself more than you love any man, you will eventually feel like you felt in the first visual, all of the time.
Right now, whether you’re conscious of it or not, you’re letting yourself feel how you felt during the second visual, every day.
So how do you do this in REAL LIFE?
…And once you begin to do it more and more, it will become easier, and eventually, it will become very natural to you.
I guarantee you that the second you start practicing this new habit, he will notice.
It might be a couple of days or weeks until you notice a big difference in him, but trust me, you will.
He’ll see a change in your vibe and will feel helplessly drawn to you.
And pretty soon, before you know it, the entire dynamic of your relationship will be reversed.
He will be the one trying to get your attention…he will be the one telling you how much he loves you…he will be the one doing extra nice things for you ‘just because.’
Try it out and see what happens!