When I ask women what they think the most powerful words they can say to a man would be, I’m usually given the replies,
“I love you,”
“You’re special”
and “Yes, I’ll have sex with you.”
While all of these statements are nice and sometimes very powerful, they won’t necessarily make him bond with you.
The two words that cause nearly every man to feel closer to you are these:
“I’m LISTENING”
Here’s why these words have such an impact on his heart. Most women can multitask.
They can listen easily even when they are focusing on something else. The problem for a man is that once he begins opening up, it feels really vulnerable.
He not only needs you to listen, but he also wants to feel like you’re listening.
He needs some sort of cue from you that what he’s saying is important or that you’re interested.
Don’t expect him to think like a woman and just “know” you’re listening.
I want you to get credit when you pay attention to what he’s saying.
Rather than drop everything you are doing, If you’re not sure what to say, just remember the two magic words above and when to say them.
HERE’S WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE
When he’s talking, at some point he’ll likely pause or just stop talking.
He’s not sure if you’re paying attention.
When you hear that pause, that is your chance to draw him closer to you.
When he does pause, wait for a second, and then look directly at him.
In your softest most enchanting whisper say, “I’m listening.”
He’ll get goosebumps when he hears you say those words that will open his heart to you.
Why?
Because it’s unexpected.
Because your soft whisper will penetrate his heart deeper than you spending
an hour telling him how much you like him.
Because it will make him feel that you understand him.
Don’t expect him to tell you what I just described- just trust me on that.
When you make a man feel this kind of connection, he doesn’t want to talk about it… He wants to enjoy it.
Create An Emotional Bond
Listening is also one way a woman creates an emotional bond with a man because once that bond is gone, the relationship becomes strained. Most women don’t realize that men bond through the emotional connection they have to a woman.
But here’s what’s confusing for women – men bond when they feel they are your HERO. Some are more romantic while others are more protective. These different styles are the way a man shows off. It’s his way of being her HERO.
Do you know which HERO bonding type makes you feel special, safe, and adored? Discover what causes him to emotionally connect with you.
