If there was a way to predict if the man you loved would turn on you one day, then these are the 3 signs I would pay attention to. When these accumulate in a relationship, they become like cancer to intimacy. It’s not possible to never experience any of these, but it is possible to pay attention so you don’t wake up one day and hear him say, “I’m sorry, I don’t love you anymore.”
1) Resentment – This occurs when someone feels they have given more than they are receiving. I’m not talking about a single incident, but what occurs over time. Often resentment takes months to build up as one partner feels that they are consistently giving to the other without much appreciation. The scary part is often this sin builds up slowly until it becomes so intense that even the slightest provocation can make the person feel that they no longer want to continue the relationship because he or she is having doubts regarding the success of the relationship.
2) Criticism – Here’s a ratio that’s worth remembering. Make sure you don’t criticize a man any more than you praise him. If you do, then he’ll feel like you’re trying to be his mother and before you say it….stop saying to him and yourself that you’re only trying to help him. He doesn’t want you to help him that way. He may need it at times, but don’t forget he wants you to be just as observant when he does something well.
3) Neglect – As you become comfortable in a relationship it’s easy to stop making the effort to please your partner. The biggest cause of neglect is the habit of mind reading. That’s when your man does something you like and you just assume he knows it. So, what do guys really like? Always remember that it was your smile and playful traits that made him want to be with you. He still craves those same qualities even more when you’re a couple.
