So someone sent me this link about how living together is better than marriage. Let’s be honest, of course you can find research to support what you want to believe. Living together does have some benefits and it certainly will make someone happier in some instances.
That’s not the problem. It’s what living together does to a persons ability to develop intimacy. The study mentions somewhat casually, “Though previous (and highly cited) research has showed a higher divorce rate among couples who live together before they tie the knot compared to those who do not, these decades-old findings may be outdated.” Well, you need to show research that disproves that instead of simply saying it may be outdated.
Most women believe that what guys like is living together before marriage so they can simply ease into getting married. Don’t fall for that.
Living together certainly has some benefits, but the question I ask is what’s your goal. If you want a man to marry you, then you need to demonstrate value. Make sharing a home with you something he has to work for and aspire to.
Please don’t make it as convenient as a long extended date. Just recently Gene Simmons got married to his long time live in girlfriend. After years of living together she had this to say, “Being married is SO much different.” She’s right. Marriage is more than simply a piece of paper. That’s why men are cautious about taking the plunge. They know it’s the biggest commitment they will ever make. The question is…are you worth getting married to?
