Whenever you hear the word “dependency,” most of us think in terms of some form of addiction or disease. It tends to imply something that should be avoided, fixed, or terminated.

Most individuals with dependencies are those with addictive personalities, and thus rely on others to meet their needs and fulfill their responsibilities. That’s certainly not the type of person you want to be in a relationship with, or aspire to become.

What if I told you that making a man emotionally dependent on you was a good thing? In fact, what if I could convince you that a man wants to be emotionally dependent on his woman?

The truth is that men enjoy being charmed by a woman and enjoy doing things to make her happy. As farfetched as this might sound, I promise you that most men view a relationship with a woman as a prize. A woman has the ability to take away a man’s pain and make him feel powerful at the same time. This happens when a woman does these two things:

1) She Puts Her Heart Ahead of Any Man

Some women mistake this for acting like a spoiled brat but it’s actual quiet appealing to men. When a client asks me, “How do I put my heart ahead of a man?” I explain it this way. Imagine you had a small child walking around with you wherever you went. Let’s pretend that small child is actually your Heart. Let’s also pretend that it was your job to protect this small child (your heart).

Now, if a man was rude to this child what would you do? Ignore his bad behavior because he’s really cute? Tell the little girl that it’s her fault…because he’s really cute? Oh I hope not!

Hopefully you’d defend her. You’d leave with the little girl, or tell the guy to stop. You’d do something. Yet so many women tolerate bad behavior from a guy because he’s really cute (sexy, hot, etc.) and when he leaves them I get emails begging me to help them get him back.

They put the guy ahead of their heart which actually makes him think of her not as special, but rather pitiful. Ladies, it’s never a good idea to put any man ahead of your own heart. Please resist any urge to do so and let me teach you how to put your heart first.

2) She is Easy to Please

This may sound like a contradiction, but it’s really not. When a woman puts her heart first it keeps her from becoming resentful. She doesn’t tolerate bad behavior which means she isn’t resentful toward the man she loves. Conflicts occur, but they are talked about and solved instead of ignored.

Because she isn’t full of resentment, she is naturally easy to please. When her man does something she enjoys, she doesn’t just say “thanks” but rather gives an emotional response. For example, the wonderful dinner wasn’t just “nice” it was “Wonderful!”

When he offers to help her she doesn’t say “thank you” she says “That makes me feel special when you help me like that.”When a man feels he can arouse an amazing woman’s emotions, he’ll become emotionally dependent on that woman and be willing to do almost anything to please her.